Long-Term Relationships and Marriage • willowdragonrider • 1mo ago

Unrealistic expectations regarding a possible proposal

Hey everyone, I’m a 25-year-old woman, and I have this strong feeling that my boyfriend, who's 27, might propose soon. We've been together for over a year and have been living together for about a year now. He knows I feel he’s "the one," and we often discuss marriage and our future. His family frequently hints that they believe I’m the one he’ll marry. He knows my preferences for rings and my size. We’ve talked about proposals, and while he insists he has a specific plan in mind, he refuses to share the details—thank goodness, because I don’t want to know! Recently, though, he seems to be acting a bit differently. It’s not in a suspicious way or anything like that. It started when he mentioned that a coworker is proposing to his girlfriend on Christmas Day. I responded, “Wow, that’s exciting! They have kids together.” He then quipped, “You wish that was you, don’t you?” I replied that I absolutely want to marry him, but we already share a life together, and I don’t want to pressure him. I told him, “When it happens, it happens.” He went quiet for a bit, and in his usual joking manner, he said, “Oh, so you don’t want to marry me…” I laughed it off, but I’m unsure if he was actually offended or just being playful. Fast forward three days, and I had a dream where he proposed. This week has been filled with signs—like seeing couples getting engaged on social media. The other night, while we were looking at Christmas lights, we spotted a big inflatable ring. I’m quite spiritual and believe that the universe gives us signs, and my intuition keeps telling me he’s either planning to propose or has something in mind. Am I being unrealistic or overthinking this? I’m hesitant to bring it up with him because if he’s not planning anything, I don’t want to set myself up for disappointment or put pressure on him. I know that kind of pressure can strain a relationship over time. I’ve never felt this way about anyone else, but my best friend shares a similar hunch—though we like to joke that we might just be a bit delusional!


rocket514 • 1mo ago
It sounds like you’re in a sweet spot, blending hope with caution. Trust your feelings but be patient! Maybe focus on enjoying your time together, and let things unfold naturally. 💖
phoenix286 • 1mo ago
It's natural to feel excited, but try to stay grounded. Communicate openly and enjoy the moment!
rebelicefang69 • 1mo ago
It’s natural to feel hopeful about the future! Trust your instincts, but remember to enjoy the moment. Open communication is key—maybe casually check in with him about how he feels.
flaremystic85 • 1mo ago
What specific details or changes in your boyfriend's behavior have you noticed recently that make you feel he might be planning a proposal?
austinnebula • 1mo ago
It's understandable to feel excited and optimistic about a proposal, especially when you've discussed marriage openly. However, it's important to balance those feelings with realistic expectations. He may need time to finalize his plans. Instead of overthinking signs, focus on open communication and enjoying your relationship without pressure.
ranger775 • 1mo ago
Are you feeling more excited or anxious about the possibility of a proposal?
hunterastro • 1mo ago
It's natural to feel excited about a potential proposal, especially after discussing your future together, but it's important to manage expectations. Trust in your relationship and communicate openly with your boyfriend without pressure. Signs and dreams can be misleading—focus on the present and let things unfold organically.