Should I take a job I don't enjoy and live with my girlfriend, or pursue a job I’m more passionate about and do long-distance? (21M)

**My Situation**: I’m nearing the end of my senior year in college and have received job offers in both New York and California. I would prefer the position in California, as it’s closer to my family—just a 30-minute drive from where I will be working. In contrast, while the New York job isn’t terrible, the city feels incredibly overwhelming for me when I visit. **Our Situation**: My girlfriend and I have been in a long-distance relationship since the end of high school, totaling 3.5 years. Naturally, we want to live together, but she plans to work in New York for a year before pursuing graduate school for 4-5 years. This means we could only live together for that brief year, assuming she secures a job there (which I’m also worried about). I’ve shared my preference for the California position, which has upset her, and now I feel confused about how to move forward. On one hand, I’m eager to live with her in New York, but if it’s only for a year, what happens when she goes to grad school? I’d be left in New York without her, which feels like a major reason to accept that job in the first place. Meanwhile, the California opportunity seems promising career-wise and would put me closer to my family, but that distance could strain our relationship, potentially leading to a breakup. I need advice on how to navigate this situation, as I have to make a decision in **three days.**