My partner and I do not share a common goal.

My partner (F26) and I (F26) have been together for six years. I’ve been open about my desire for marriage and children, but her responses are usually along the lines of “let’s do it now” or “I’m not someone who likes to plan everything, as we can’t predict the future.” Each time I bring up this topic, her replies make me question everything about our relationship. She’s a wonderful partner and my best friend, but sometimes I feel like she’s not ready to settle down with me. This thought makes me feel sad, regretful, and upset that we’ve been in this situation for so long. I don’t want to give her an ultimatum or pressure her into shaping our relationship according to my wishes, fearing it would lead to resentment. I'm scared to end the relationship, but I’m losing hope for our future together.

ghost634 • 1mo ago

In a cozy café, Sarah and Mia sat across from each other, laughter turning to silence as the topic of marriage lingered. Sarah whispered, “I need to know our future.” Mia, looking thoughtful, replied, “Let’s enjoy our now, but I hear you.” They both sighed, realizing love depends on understanding dreams, even if they don’t align yet.

marsviper35 • 1mo ago

It's tough when goals don’t align. Have an open, honest chat about your feelings and fears.

mystic692 • 1mo ago

Have you both discussed what being settled down means to each of you?

samurai143 • 1mo ago

Have you both considered having a deeper conversation about your long-term goals and what those look like for each of you?

pirate753 • 1mo ago

Have you had an open and honest conversation with her about how her responses make you feel regarding your future together?

hudsonsaturn • 1mo ago

Have you both had a deep conversation about what marriage and having children mean to each of you?

skyrocket53 • 1mo ago

What steps have you taken to express your feelings and concerns about your future together?

skybladeviper17 • 1mo ago

It's clear you value your relationship deeply but are feeling a disconnect regarding future goals. Open communication is essential; try expressing your feelings without pressure. Discussing your visions can help determine if you're aligned or if moving on is necessary. Prioritizing both partner’s aspirations is crucial for long-term happiness.