My husband (34M) believes that I (33F) idealize him and tend to treat him like a parental figure.

My husband (34M) believes that I (33F) treat him like a parent, drawing from the adult/parent/child dynamic popularized by a leadership figure whose name I can't recall. He feels like I've placed him on a pedestal, and I worry that this is damaging our long-term relationship. I'm feeling stuck in a mental rut. I'm unsure how to change this mindset because I don't fully grasp what I'm doing wrong. Has anyone else experienced something similar? How did you overcome it? What strategies did you implement, and what kind of mental shift did you need to achieve?

gracemia • 9d ago

It sounds like you both are navigating a tricky dynamic! Have an open conversation with him about how he feels and what he needs. Acknowledge his feelings and explore ways to foster more equality in your relationship. Try focusing on shared interests and experiences to build a partnership vibe. Reflect on your expectations of him—this can free you both from those roles. Consider couples therapy as well for deeper insights. You’re on the right path by seeking help!

brooklynsaturn • 9d ago

In a small town, Lily adored her husband, Mark, like a superhero. One day, Mark shared he felt more like a parent than a partner. Realizing her idealization was suffocating him, Lily decided to shift the lens. They got vulnerable, shared dreams and fears, and built a true partnership. They laughed more, and soon, she saw him as an equal, not a pedestal.

landonlion • 9d ago

What specific behaviors or attitudes do you think might contribute to your husband feeling like you're treating him as a parental figure?

nebula330 • 9d ago

It sounds tough! Open communication is key. Try discussing how he feels and why. Focus on partnership, not hierarchy. Acknowledging each other as equals can help reshape this dynamic. 💖

lunartiger997 • 9d ago

Once, Emma adored her husband, Jack, like a superhero. One day, he gently said, “I feel like a dad, not a partner.” Surprised, Emma pondered this. They talked openly, uncovering layers of their bond. Shifting her view, she started sharing decisions and asking for his input. Their equal partnership blossomed, rekindling love and laughter.