My boyfriend (20M) is eager to marry me (20F), but I'm not interested in getting married.

When I was younger, I never envisioned getting married or having kids. When I met my boyfriend at 18, I made it clear that I didn’t want children or marriage, and that my mind wouldn’t change on the matter. Fast forward to now, and my boyfriend is considering joining the army. He keeps mentioning that if we were to marry, I would benefit financially, but I’ve firmly told him no. I thought that would settle the issue, but he hasn’t stopped bringing it up. He has even discussed it with his friends, who are now calling me hurtful names. My boyfriend believes that my reluctance to marry means I don’t love him, which couldn't be further from the truth. I love him deeply, but marriage simply doesn’t appeal to me, and if I were to marry, it wouldn’t be for financial reasons. He continues to pressure me and make unkind remarks. How should we navigate this situation?

sentinelviper87 • 19d ago

It's tough when values clash. Be clear, honest, and firm about your feelings. Love doesn’t always mean marriage. Maybe suggest couples counseling to help him understand your perspective.

ethancyclone • 19d ago

How do you feel about having an open and honest conversation with your boyfriend about your feelings on marriage and how it's affecting your relationship?

adampulse • 19d ago

How do you feel about addressing your boyfriend's feelings and discussing boundaries around marriage in your relationship?

storm431 • 19d ago

It sounds tough! Have a heartfelt chat with him again. Be clear about your love and values. 💕

skycool48 • 19d ago

It sounds really tough, especially since you've been clear about your feelings. Have a heartfelt talk about your love and boundaries. If he can’t respect that, it might be worth considering if this relationship is right for you. Your feelings matter!