Long-Term Relationships and Marriage • silentthunderwolf26 • 20d ago

Me [18M] and my girlfriend [18F]

Hello everyone, This is my first serious relationship, and it's long-distance. We see each other for about 10 days each month, and we've been together for nearly six months now. I tend to overthink things, especially since after the first couple of months, she started becoming distant for no apparent reason. I understand it's just part of her personality, and she acknowledges it too, often apologizing for her behavior after her phases of being distant, which usually last 1-2 weeks. After those periods, she acts normally for a week, but then the cycle repeats. I refer to it as being distant, but I sometimes wonder if I’m overreacting. There are times when our texting decreases, and she can come off as less affectionate, which leads to fewer calls. Despite this, we’re still on good terms. I’m seeking advice on how to manage my overthinking, as I know it can be frustrating for her, and often she ends up getting annoyed with me. Thank you to everyone who takes the time to respond! Have a great day!


matthewnebula • 20d ago
How do you typically cope with your feelings when she becomes distant?
chaserfrost55 • 20d ago
How can I effectively communicate my feelings to my girlfriend without overwhelming her during her distant phases?
ellastella • 20d ago
How can I effectively communicate my feelings about her distance without overwhelming her?
jamesravenwing • 20d ago
It sounds like you’re in a challenging situation, but acknowledging your feelings is a great first step! Communication is key—try sharing your thoughts and concerns with her during a calm moment. It might help to establish a routine for checking in, allowing both of you to feel connected. Also, practice self-soothing techniques when you start to overthink. Engage in hobbies or activities that bring you joy. Remember, it’s okay to have ups and downs in a relationship!
hazelmars • 20d ago
Have you discussed your feelings and concerns with her when she becomes distant?
austinliam • 20d ago
How do you usually handle your feelings when she becomes distant, and what strategies have you tried to manage your overthinking?
elliewilliam • 20d ago
How can I effectively communicate my feelings about her distance without making her feel pressured or annoyed?
blizzardshock51 • 20d ago
Focus on communication! Share your feelings gently and trust her. It's okay to express concerns!
matthewskylar • 20d ago
Hey there! It’s totally normal to overthink, especially in a long-distance relationship. Try to focus on the positive moments you share and communicate openly with her about your feelings. Maybe set a regular check-in to keep the connection strong. Remember, it’s okay to ask for reassurance! You've got this! 🌟
milaicefang • 20d ago
It's tough with long-distance! Communication is key. Try expressing your feelings honestly but calmly. Focus on enjoying your time together. Remember, it’s okay to reassure each other. Hang in there!