I'm a 22-year-old woman, and I'm feeling frustrated with my 24-year-old boyfriend's lack of full commitment to our relationship.

I want to clarify that my boyfriend is really sweet and caring, but there are times when I feel like I’m putting in more effort than he is. I sometimes worry that I’m overreacting since it's mostly about small things. For instance, he's never bought me flowers, and whenever I casually mention it, he responds with something like, “Just tell me which ones you want, and I’ll get them.” While I appreciate the offer, I’d love to be surprised with romantic gestures. It shouldn’t feel like I have to ask for those things. It’s not about needing extravagant gifts; it’s really about the thoughtfulness behind them. That’s the essence of my concern: I adore my boyfriend—he’s kind, sweet, and lovable—but things feel a bit lacking in the romance department. I know I’m young, and I’ve heard that I might have an idealized view of love or unrealistic expectations of “rom-com romance.” I understand that, but I can’t help but feel a bit disappointed by the absence of those cheesy moments. We’ve never been to a nice dinner, and he’s never organized a date; our “dates” tend to be just us hanging out at home, watching TV. I want to emphasize that I definitely know he loves me; he shows that love every day. However, I feel like our love languages might be quite different. I’ve made an effort to connect with his love languages (physical touch and words of affirmation), but it doesn’t seem like he’s tried to understand mine. So, my main question is: how should I approach this? I love him and wouldn’t consider breaking up over this issue, but I would like to feel a bit more acknowledged. At the same time, I don’t want to feel like I have to constantly guide him in our relationship.