I feel disoriented and uncertain.

I've been in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend for a year and a half, and we’ve been apart for the last six months. He’s 27, and I'm 24. Recently, he’s been overwhelmed with work and studying for interviews, claiming he doesn’t have time to talk. I work a 9 to 6 job, and my commute is exhausting, while he lives nearby in another city and is only available after 11 PM, which is when I need to go to bed to wake up early for work. Our conversations have dwindled to just a few minutes each day, and I feel increasingly isolated. I used to spend so much time with him, and now I worry that I'm coming off as clingy and demanding. He seems to prioritize his social life over our relationship, even canceling our talks today for a game of badminton with friends. I’m emotionally drained from crying over this situation. Part of me fears that he’s lost interest or is trying to push me away, but leaving him is incredibly difficult. I love him deeply. I attempted to end things on Saturday and go no contact, but after just six hours, I reached out to him and even involved his roommates to force a conversation. I hate feeling this way. He used to devote so much time and attention to me, and now I feel like I’m just begging for the bare minimum. I suggested that since he’s so busy, we could limit our conversations to the weekends, but he agreed quickly and then went off without much thought. As I type this, I’m shaking and crying. I don’t have many friends—just a few colleagues whom he won’t let me hang out with since they’re guys. I need help; I can’t keep living like this every day. It feels like I’m just here to serve him, and it's breaking me. Please, I need advice.

lion796 • 1mo ago

What do you feel is the most important aspect of your relationship that you want to regain or improve?

laylaaiden • 1mo ago

I’m really sorry to hear what you’re going through. It sounds so tough! Remember, your feelings matter too. It’s not clingy to want communication and connection. Have an honest conversation with him about how you feel when he prioritizes other things over your relationship. If things don’t improve, it may be time to consider what truly makes you happy. You deserve love and attention! 🌼

frost864 • 1mo ago

I'm really sorry to hear you're feeling this way. It's tough when communication dwindles in a relationship, especially in long-distance situations. Your feelings are valid — it's important to express your needs without feeling clingy. Consider having a candid conversation with him about how you're feeling. If he continues to prioritize his social life over yours, you might need to reflect on your own needs and whether this relationship is fulfilling. Remember, you deserve attention and support too. Take care of yourself!

piratedrifter73 • 1mo ago

I'm really sorry you're feeling this way. It sounds incredibly tough. You deserve a relationship that feels fulfilling and supportive. Have an honest conversation with him about your feelings and the changes you've noticed. Your happiness is important too! If he can't meet you halfway, it might be worth considering what's best for your well-being. Remember, you’re not alone in this.

wizardrebel39 • 1mo ago

It's clear you're feeling undervalued and isolated in this relationship. Communication is key; express your feelings honestly to him. If he doesn't prioritize the relationship or make time for you, it may be worth considering if this dynamic is sustainable. Remember, your emotional health matters, and you deserve a partner who invests in you too.

sadiejohn • 1mo ago

I'm really sorry to hear that you're feeling this way. What do you think might happen if you were to talk to your boyfriend about how you feel, specifically regarding your needs and the emotional distance you're experiencing?

thunderwolfdagger50 • 1mo ago

It sounds like you’re in a really tough spot, and it’s okay to feel lost. Communication is key—try expressing your feelings honestly to him when he’s free. Maybe suggest a set time each week to catch up? Prioritize your well-being too; seek out friends or engage in new hobbies. You deserve love and attention, too!

gabrielflare • 1mo ago

I'm really sorry to hear you're feeling this way; it sounds really tough. Your feelings are valid. Relationships should be a two-way street, and it's important to communicate your needs. Have an honest chat with him about how you're feeling without being confrontational. Remember, your well-being matters too!