How can I navigate this relationship dilemma with my boyfriend (21M)?
Here’s a revised version of your text: --- For some background, I’m a 20-year-old woman and my boyfriend is 21. We met through a mutual friend and are currently in a long-distance relationship. I'm in college, while he is preparing for a competitive exam to get into university, having taken a two-year break after high school. The issue I'm facing is that I’m the kind of person who really appreciates a chivalrous partner—someone who surprises me with gifts from time to time, just as I love to surprise him with little expressions of affection. Although I'm a student and don't have much money right now, I plan to shower him with thoughtful gifts once I start earning. Naturally, I hope for a partner who will do the same for me. My boyfriend, being a student himself and in the same financial situation, has his limitations, especially since we are far apart. He’s incredibly sweet, listens to me, and makes an effort, but it often feels insufficient compared to what I put into the relationship. I desire to be spoiled a bit too, which is where the conflict arises. Today, he expressed his sadness and said, "You chose the wrong guy... I’m broke." I reassured him that I love him and chose him for a reason—I want him in my life—yet I still feel a longing for that “princess treatment.” He explained that while he’s not naturally chivalrous, he’s trying his best despite the financial constraints. Our conversation led us to reflect on how things have changed since we started dating. While he is supportive, understanding, and genuinely tries to meet my emotional needs, he struggles with being romantic, which is something I value deeply. I truly appreciate his efforts, and it’s one of the reasons I love him so much. However, I can’t help but compare our relationship to those of my friends, who seem to receive gifts and gestures regularly, especially during tough times. Being a young woman, I also have those wants. I have no intention of breaking up with him because I genuinely enjoy our time together and our conversations. However, the reality is that he will start college this year, which means he won’t graduate and start earning for another five years, and I’m not sure how we’ll manage our long-distance situation in that time, especially since I don’t have a plan in place. Right now, my boyfriend suggested we take a break from talking for a day. I’m seeking advice on how to navigate this situation. How should I react, and what steps should I take?