Great on Paper but Emotionally Distant: Should I [31NB] Continue with My Partner [32F] or Am I Just Wasting My Time?

My partner [32F] and I [31NB] have been in a relationship for a year and a half, living together for nearly as long. From the outside, we appear to be an ideal match—we align on finances, future aspirations, lifestyle choices, and family goals. She embraces my nomadic lifestyle and unconventional career without judgment. However, I’ve begun to question whether compatibility on paper is sufficient when the emotional connection feels lacking. Here’s what’s been troubling me: - She entirely shuts down conversations about emotions and feelings, while for me, emotional intimacy is crucial. - I bear all the emotional labor in our relationship. - When I stop managing our emotional dynamics, everything tends to unravel. - She lacks initiative—I'm the one who organizes every date, social event, and activity in our lives. - The chemistry and spark between us seem to be dwindling (if they were ever truly present). Nevertheless, she is incredibly reliable, dependable, and stable. We complement each other—she helps ground my sometimes chaotic energy. On a scale from -10 to +10, I would say our relationship usually hovers around +3 or +4, occasionally reaching +6 on good days, but dipping to -2 during tough times. (To clarify, +3 or +4 translates to about a 6.5 on a standard 1-10 scale.) I find myself torn between: 1. Acknowledging that this stable foundation is valuable (and hard to come by given my lifestyle) and trying to make the best of it. 2. Realizing that I might be settling for less than I deserve and contemplating leaving. 3. Seeking ways to enhance our emotional connection without trying to change who we fundamentally are. Is a stable yet emotionally shallow relationship worth pursuing? How can one tell when "good enough" is truly insufficient? Has anyone else ever prioritized stability over passion and emotional depth? How did that turn out? Have you discovered effective ways to foster a sense of connection when one partner isn't as interested?