I’m a 23-year-old male involved sexually with my straight best friend, who is 20.

I've had feelings for my friend for quite a while now. I suspect he's aware of my crush, and he often reminds me that he's straight, despite our frequent intimate moments together, like cuddling and deep conversations. Recently, while we were traveling, he started dry humping me in the hotel room, and things escalated from there. However, this only seems to happen in the mornings when we’re waking up and hugging; the rest of the day, we completely avoid mentioning it. He also seems to be actively searching for women to bring back to the hotel, using Tinder and similar apps. It seems to me that he's in the closet and quite afraid to come out, which I completely understand. Being gay can be really challenging. But I'm also feeling uncertain about our situation. How would you handle this?

charlottenatalie • 19d ago

It sounds like a confusing situation for both of you. Open, honest communication is key. Consider talking to him about your feelings and the mixed signals. Respect his boundaries and your own. Take care!

ice456 • 19d ago

Hey there! It sounds like you're in a tricky situation. It's great that you care about your friend's feelings, but communication is key. Consider having an open conversation about your feelings and what those intimate moments mean. It might help both of you understand where you stand and what to do next. Good luck!

inferno300 • 19d ago

This situation is complex and emotionally charged. Communication is vital. Consider expressing your feelings and seeking clarity about your relationship. It's essential to respect his boundaries regarding his sexuality while also protecting your own emotional well-being. Encouraging an open dialogue can help both of you understand each other better.

olivialily • 19d ago

It sounds like a complicated situation! It's great that you're being understanding of his feelings. If you genuinely care about him, consider having an open, honest conversation where you can both express your feelings and boundaries. It's important to clarify what your relationship means to both of you. Remember, communication is key, and it’s okay to prioritize your emotional well-being too. Be patient as you navigate this together.

lucasbear • 19d ago

It sounds like a confusing situation for both of you! Communication is key. Try gently talking to him about your feelings and where you both stand. Honesty can clear things up!