The client's husband reached out to me via DM regarding their "affair," and he has since removed their text conversations.

This is lengthy because the guidelines require it to be comprehensive and precise. I, a 42-year-old woman, and my husband, a 32-year-old man, are in the process of getting a divorce. He works as a tattoo artist and had a client who raised red flags for me from the beginning. She spent a considerable amount of money and time with him, frequently giving him gifts like books, vapes, and food, along with generous tips. When I expressed my concerns, he brushed them off, claiming that her feelings didn't matter since he didn’t feel the same way and was merely benefiting financially from her patronage. A few weeks later, I received a direct message on Instagram from this client, admitting that they had been intimate and that she regretted damaging both her marriage and ours. I showed the messages to my husband, and he was visibly terrified—I've never seen him so panicked. Initially, I thought he was worried I'd believe her claims, but now I'm uncertain. He immediately tried to call her, but she rejected his calls and blocked him. He then informed the shop owner, who described her as unstable, mentioning that she had threatened to harm herself and had a history of overdoses (she works as a nurse). He also contacted another tattoo artist who confirmed that the client had reached out to her and seemed very disturbed. Later that night, as we were settling down for bed, I reassured him that I didn't believe he had cheated but that this entire situation made me very uncomfortable and would take time for me to process. I explained that I would likely have questions and would seek comfort during this time. He appeared to understand and accept this. I asked to see their text messages, but he told me he had deleted them. When I inquired why, he said he didn’t want reminders of her and what had happened; I was taken aback by this response. After trying to discuss it further, he eventually told me to stop bringing it up, suggesting that since I seemed to think he cheated and didn't trust him, I should just leave. So, I stopped bringing it up. Now that we're going through the divorce, I've been journaling about the ways he has hurt me. As I was writing down examples, I noted “not respecting my wishes or trusting my instincts,” which triggered those feelings all over again. I confronted him about it the other night, and he told me he deleted the messages to prevent his words from being misinterpreted. I countered that you can’t misinterpret written words, but that ended the conversation again. I'm left with two main thoughts: either she was inappropriate and he didn’t put a stop to it, or there was something inappropriate in their communications. I feel I deserve more clarity, but it seems unlikely I’ll receive any. What do you think? Consider the possibilities: he cheated, failed to shut down inappropriate behavior, or engaged in mutual inappropriate conversation. If it were the second option, I might reconsider my decisions, but I know that if the roles were reversed, he would have left me. It’s extremely frustrating that, alongside my reasons for choosing to divorce, this situation keeps resurfacing in my mind. I feel like I'm losing my grip on reality—he has a pattern of causing me pain while somehow portraying himself as the victim. Perhaps the answer is glaringly obvious, and I'm overthinking it. Still, I would appreciate hearing the perspectives or experiences of others. Thank you for taking the time to read this. TL;DR: My husband deleted a text conversation with a client who claimed he cheated on me. His justifications seem weak, and I'm left questioning everything. I'm uncertain: did he cheat, neglect to address inappropriate comments, or was there a mutual exchange of inappropriate messages?