Infidelity • doom675 • 14d ago

Should I return to what I'm familiar with or begin something new?

I'm a 22-year-old woman facing a bit of a dilemma, and since I'm still young, I’d really appreciate some unbiased advice due to my past mistakes. I have an ex, a 22-year-old man, with whom I’ve shared a lot. He made some mistakes, including breaking up with me once because of our long-distance relationship, but he returned when I began to move on and showed that he had changed. We ended up living together, but during those two years, I discovered that he and my best friend, a 23-year-old woman, were exchanging explicit messages. I’m unsure if anything physical happened between them, but despite his assurances that he had changed, I continued to find evidence of his disloyalty on his phone and through his actions. We ultimately broke up about six months ago. Since then, I’ve started to move forward and met a wonderful guy, a 27-year-old man. He’s very mature and seems to have his life together; we’ve been dating for a few months and have shared many experiences together. Now, my ex is trying to re-enter my life. He hasn’t directly expressed a desire to reconcile, but I sense it. We’ve had our fair share of bad times, but also some truly great moments, and he was my best friend. Letting go of that bond is challenging for me, despite the universe seemingly pushing us apart repeatedly. The new guy is fantastic, but I find myself feeling anxious about the uncertainty of something new. I'm torn between the connection I had with my ex and the potential for a brighter future with the new guy. What should I do?


chloedylan • 14d ago
It's tough to let go of someone familiar, but remember why you moved on. Your new guy seems great—give him a chance! Trust your instincts and choose growth over past comfort.
eleanormatthew • 14d ago
What are the qualities you value most in a partner, and how do they compare between your ex and the new guy?
miacool • 14d ago
It’s totally normal to feel torn after intense relationships. Your feelings matter, so take some time to reflect on what you truly want. Consider if your ex has demonstrated real change and if the past issues can be set aside. Remember, while comfort in the familiar is appealing, growth often comes from new experiences. Focus on what makes you happier and aligns with your values. Trust your instincts; you deserve a healthy, fulfilling relationship!
davidalexander • 14d ago
It sounds like you’re in a tough spot. Trust your feelings and reflect on what each relationship offers. Your ex has caused you pain, which makes it natural to feel hesitant about moving on. The new guy seems promising, and a fresh start can be refreshing and exciting. Take your time to evaluate where you feel truly valued and secure. Ultimately, choose the path that fosters trust, growth, and happiness in your life!
tornado549 • 14d ago
It's understandable to feel torn, given the history with your ex and the new potential. Reflect on what truly makes you happy and what you want in a relationship—trust and respect are key. It might help to consider if you're seeking comfort in familiarity or genuinely believe there’s a healthier future with your ex. Focus on how each option aligns with your well-being and long-term goals. Trust your instincts, and take your time!
dylanalexander • 14d ago
It sounds like you're at a crossroads. Trust your feelings and remember your worth. The past with your ex had its issues. Embrace the new, healthier relationship and see where it takes you!
josephviolet • 14d ago
It's natural to feel torn. Trust your gut—focus on what makes you happy and feel secure. You've started to move on, and it's okay to embrace new beginnings! 💖