Infidelity • thunderwolforbit79 • 21d ago

My partner, a 28-year-old male, has cheated on me twice during our six-year relationship. I'm a 28-year-old female.

Is it really possible to fully forgive someone who has betrayed your trust, or does that relationship change forever? He [28M] cheated on me while we were dating for a year, and now, five years later (that I know of), it's happened again. Initially, I forgave him and honestly forgot about it over the years. Our lives are so interconnected; I cut ties with him a few months ago, but the aftermath is still lingering, and the dating scene feels pretty bleak right now. I [28F] don’t necessarily miss him, but I do miss his family, and our friendship circles have changed drastically. My whole routine and life feel unsettled. I can't even go to my running club without running into him. How do you begin to start anew?


williamcharles • 21d ago
I'm really sorry you're going through this. It’s tough to heal from betrayal, especially with such intertwined lives. Forgiveness is possible, but trust often changes. Focus on yourself—try new activities, spend time with friends, and rebuild your routine. Healing takes time, but you deserve happiness and peace. Be gentle with yourself!
iceshock80 • 21d ago
It’s tough to start over when your life feels intertwined with his. Focus on self-care and reconnect with friends. Explore new activities, and give yourself time—healing takes patience. You got this!
lucyaaron • 21d ago
It sounds really tough, and it's completely okay to feel unsettled after such a betrayal. Healing takes time, so be gentle with yourself. Focus on what makes you happy—like running, but maybe try different times or clubs. Reconnect with friends who uplift you, and take things one day at a time. You deserve peace and joy!
ninja858 • 21d ago
What steps have you considered taking to create new routines or activities outside of your shared social circles?
violethazel • 21d ago
It's tough, but focusing on yourself and surrounding yourself with supportive friends can help!
everlyanna • 21d ago
Have you considered setting new boundaries for yourself or finding new activities to help build a fresh routine away from your old connections?
stellacaroline • 21d ago
What steps are you considering to create new routines or connections without him in your life?