My girlfriend (19) has developed feelings for a security guard (32) she just met. Should I wait for her to make a decision?

Sure! Here’s a rewritten version of your text: --- This is a lengthy situation, so I'll do my best to summarize it. **Summary:** My 19-year-old girlfriend is feeling confused and is contemplating ending our 10-month relationship for a 32-year-old security guard with two kids whom she met just four days ago. I'm invested in her family and our future together. I believe in our communication and our ability to work through this. What should we do next? **Background:** My girlfriend and I have been together for 10 months. I had been single for quite a while before we started dating, and I didn't realize that she had just ended her first serious relationship three weeks prior. Up until recently, I’ve been very happy in our relationship; it feels mature and healthy. As both introverts, we spend quality time at home cooking and gaming. I’m deeply in love, and she expresses the same feelings. I was genuinely healing from my past traumas, including being cheated on multiple times, and she has been incredibly supportive and communicative because of this. I also understand that she has her history of abuse, so I strive to be patient and understanding. She appreciates my efforts, which gives me confidence that I'm supporting her well. Initially hesitant to commit, I grew more serious about our relationship when her family made me feel valued and included. She's been clear about wanting marriage and children, and I’m now considering those possibilities seriously. **Current Situation:** Everything changed when I returned from a four-day trip on Wednesday. My girlfriend had just started a new job at a vape store, working closing shifts, and expressed concern about walking home alone late at night. I provided her with mace for protection and indicated that I could pick her up or pay for an Uber if she felt unsafe. She began her new job on Friday, and by Saturday night, she was enjoying it. On Sunday, I shared a dream I had where she confessed her love for a fictional woman, and we ended up discussing the idea of an open relationship. I told her I wouldn't mind if she explored attractions to other women or potentially even participating in a threesome with someone we didn’t know. We agreed to be honest about any attractions to others. However, later that night, she called me in tears. After discussing her feelings about a flirty security guard at her job, she confessed that she felt guilty for finding him attractive, despite being in a committed relationship. She reiterated that she was attracted to his assertiveness and made it clear she valued our relationship but was conflicted. When he walked her home, she expressed to him that while she felt attracted to him, it felt wrong since she is with me. I reassured her of my love and support, emphasizing that I trust her judgment but was uncomfortable with anything happening between them, especially considering how new their relationship is. We agreed to pause the discussion until I returned home. When I got home, I found her in tears, troubled by her attraction to the security guard. During our conversation, she continually asked if I wanted to break up or take a break. I was taken aback, as I thought we were navigating this together. I reassured her of my lack of blame for her feelings; we even discussed experimenting with others, but I reiterated that my concern was specifically about this guard, given his age and their new acquaintance. Later that night, while with her, I made a choice I regretted and checked her phone out of curiosity. I found messages revealing her struggles and a detailed note in her app that poured out her thoughts and feelings. The note expressed her guilt over feeling attracted to the security guard and her realization that I treat her well, but she is drawn to different qualities in a partner. She shared her confusion about wanting to be single to discover herself while fearing she would regret leaving me. **Final Thoughts:** I'm at a crossroads. I see her as a potential life partner and want us to work through this. I want her to feel comfortable and fulfilled in our relationship and be open to exploring new experiences together. At the same time, I don’t want to feel like I need to control her for us to stay together. I also fear the consequences of opening our relationship fully. Thank you for listening. **Summary:** My 19-year-old girlfriend is contemplating ending our relationship for a 32-year-old security guard she just met days ago. I’m committed to our future, and I believe we can work through this confusion together. How should we move forward?