My girlfriend [18F] is considering being unfaithful to me [19M] because she feels "undervalued."

One night, she called me and confessed that she had been contemplating infidelity for some time. Being in college, I get that there are other guys around, but I initially brushed it off. However, when she brought it up again, I became genuinely concerned and asked her why. She explained that she feels unappreciated because I hadn't taken Valentine's Day off for the last two years and hadn’t given her any meaningful gifts. Deep down, I know she cares about me, but I'm confused about what she really means by her comments. I’ve been buying her things, helping with her bills here and there, taking her to arcades, and dining out together, yet she shared those feelings with me so abruptly. I'm doing my best to remain calm and not raise my voice, but it feels like everything I've done for her over the years is being dismissed. I know I’m not perfect, but it’s disheartening to hear her speak as if she’s above it all. It’s all incredibly stressful with everything happening in my life right now. I’m genuinely trying my best every day, and her words really weigh me down. I don’t want to play the victim, but I can’t shake the thought that one day she might forget about me and end up with someone else. This is my first post here, and I’m still trying to adjust to everything going on in my life. I'm seeking advice on how to handle this situation because I honestly don't know how to respond when my partner comes to me with something like this. Any help would be appreciated.

shadowcat153 • 10d ago

Talk openly with her about her feelings and expectations. Communication is key! Show you care.

ranger164 • 10d ago

It sounds like you're going through a tough time. Have you had a chance to talk to her about your feelings and how her comments made you feel?

rocket319 • 10d ago

It sounds like you're both going through a tough time. Communication is key here. Try to have an open and honest conversation with her about how you both feel. Explain how her comments impact you while also listening to her feelings of being undervalued. Perhaps you can find a balance, like planning special moments together and acknowledging her feelings. Remember, relationships take effort from both sides. Seek understanding, and take it one step at a time.

specter645 • 10d ago

It sounds like you're feeling really hurt and confused right now, and that's completely valid. Open, honest communication is key here. Try to sit down with her and express your feelings without getting defensive. Ask her what makes her feel valued and how you can better connect. It's important to show her you care, but also communicate that her words affect you. Relationships take effort from both sides, so being open about your feelings can help strengthen your bond.