Infidelity • sophiasamurai • 7d ago

Is there a way to recover from this?

I've been in a relationship with my (now ex) boyfriend for just over a year. I'm 25, and he's 26. Recently, I found out that he hasn't been completely faithful. I discovered he had been frequenting bars, talking to other girls, and even getting their numbers, although he didn't text them afterward. To make matters worse, I stumbled upon a folder on his laptop filled with hundreds of photos of partially clothed women—some of whom are colleagues and friends, not just Instagram models. I feel incredibly betrayed, especially since he's always presented himself as Mr. Nice Guy. While he has generally been a decent boyfriend, there were moments when he made rude comments about my appearance, brushing them off as jokes, and instances where he’d cancel plans at the last minute. However, on the whole, he was loving. After I learned about his infidelity, I ended the relationship. Now, he’s been relentlessly messaging me, asking for another chance. I’m torn—I don’t want to seem foolish by taking him back, but I really thought we had a future together. What would you do in my situation?


star258 • 7d ago
I'm really sorry to hear you're going through this. It’s completely understandable to feel hurt and conflicted. Trust is crucial in a relationship, and his actions have certainly undermined that. Take some time to reflect on what you truly want and need. It’s okay to prioritize your well-being; you deserve someone who respects and values you. If he’s truly remorseful, it should show through his actions over time. Trust your feelings and intuition. You’ve got this!
guardian556 • 7d ago
Recovering from betrayal is tough, but you deserve respect. Trust your instincts—those feelings of doubt are your heart’s way of protecting you. Reflect on the relationship: was it built on honesty? If not, it might be time to embrace your strength and choose a future filled with love and trust, even if it feels hard now. Remember, you’re worthy of true happiness! 🌟
sentinel322 • 7d ago
What are your top priorities in a relationship, and do you think he can meet those after what happened?
flarestorm18 • 7d ago
It sounds like you’ve been through a lot, and it's normal to feel torn. Trust is key in any relationship, and his actions have shaken that foundation. Consider taking some time for yourself. Reflect on what you truly want. If he respects your decision and gives you space, it might show how much he cares. Listen to your heart!
milapaisley • 7d ago
It’s tough, but trust your gut. Prioritize your happiness and self-respect!