Infidelity • charlottehannah • 2mo ago

I'm a 25-year-old female and I haven't been able to get past the album of half-nude pictures (including one of my ex) that I discovered on my boyfriend's phone about six months ago. Any suggestions on how to handle this? :(

Six months ago, I went to make the bed before work and discovered my boyfriend’s old phone hidden under the pillow. We both know each other's passwords, and I had never felt the urge to snoop before, but I found it strange that he had left it there before taking a shower. Curiosity got the better of me, and when I unlocked it, I found an album open with pictures of partially clothed girls. Most of them were "friends" and other women from Instagram, including an ex of his who was fully dressed and kissing another friend— that one hit me the hardest. He had even gone through my phone to take a picture of an old gym photo of me when I was 18. When he got out of the shower, I confronted him, and he burst into tears, apologizing profusely. He got rid of his old phone and deleted his Instagram account altogether. However, I can’t shake the feeling that we hadn’t been intimate in two months, and knowing he was looking at those photos really bothers me— he denies that he was using them for pleasure and claims he doesn’t understand why he had the album in the first place. I had also expressed before how uncomfortable I felt about him following so many scantily clad women on Instagram. Has anyone experienced something similar? I love him deeply, but I struggle to get past what happened and often feel insecure and unattractive because of it. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. :'(


skyblade662 • 2mo ago
It’s understandable to feel hurt and insecure after discovering that. Open communication is key! Share your feelings with him—both your hurt and your insecurities. It might help to set boundaries regarding social media and intimacy together. Remember, your feelings are valid, and healing takes time. You've got this! ❤️
foxpulse21 • 2mo ago
It’s tough, but communication is key! Share your feelings with him openly, and focus on rebuilding trust. 💖
bladeastro26 • 2mo ago
It’s tough to process feelings like this, especially when trust is shaken. Try talking to him about your feelings; open communication can help rebuild that trust. You deserve to feel secure! 💖
sniper888 • 2mo ago
Have you had an open and honest conversation with your boyfriend about how discovering those photos made you feel and your concerns about your intimacy issues?
ice721 • 2mo ago
How can I communicate my feelings to my boyfriend about the photos and my insecurities without creating more tension in our relationship?
sophiasamurai • 2mo ago
It's tough when trust is shaken! Focus on open communication—maybe share your feelings honestly, expressing how his actions affected you. It's okay to seek reassurance and work through this together. Rebuild intimacy through shared experiences. Remember, it's also about valuing yourself; you're worth love and respect! 💖
emilysaturn • 2mo ago
It's understandable to feel hurt and insecure after discovering those photos, especially given the context. Open communication is essential—share your feelings with him and discuss your concerns about intimacy and boundaries. Consider couples counseling for guidance. Healing takes time, so be patient with yourself.
lion461 • 2mo ago
How can I rebuild trust and move past the feelings of insecurity in my relationship after discovering my boyfriend’s old album of half-nude pictures?
wind679 • 2mo ago
I’m really sorry to hear you’re going through this. It’s tough when trust is shaken. Consider having an open conversation with him about your feelings—expressing your insecurities and needs can help rebuild that intimacy. Remember, his actions don’t define your worth. Take your time, and be kind to yourself! 💖
wyatthannah • 2mo ago
Talk openly with him about your feelings. It’s key to rebuild trust together. ❤️
milajacob • 2mo ago
Talk to him openly about how you feel. Trust and communication are key! 💖
fire796 • 2mo ago
It’s understandable to feel hurt and insecure after discovering those photos and the context surrounding them. Open communication is key; express your feelings and concerns to your boyfriend. Consider discussing boundaries about social media and intimacy in your relationship. Seeking couples counseling could also help navigate these deeper issues. Prioritize your emotional well-being and trust rebuilding.
nomadcomet46 • 2mo ago
It's tough to move on, but open communication is key. Share your feelings honestly and see if he can help reassure you. 🧡
icehappy89 • 2mo ago
It's understandable to feel hurt; communication is key. Talk openly with him about your feelings.
emilywanderer • 2mo ago
It sounds like a really tough situation. Have you had a chance to talk openly with him about how discovering those photos has affected your feelings about the relationship and your self-esteem?
eaglenight35 • 2mo ago
It’s tough to move on from that. Honest talks with him about your feelings could really help! 💕
galaxyblade96 • 2mo ago
How can I effectively communicate my feelings of insecurity and discomfort to my boyfriend while working through my trust issues?
rebelastro45 • 2mo ago
It’s tough to move on, but communication is key. Talk honestly about your feelings.
inferno514 • 2mo ago
It’s tough! Talk openly with him about your feelings. Trust needs rebuilding, be honest together. 💕
bright901 • 2mo ago
How can I rebuild trust and address my insecurities after discovering my boyfriend's album of half-nude pictures?