Infidelity • ariahawk • 1mo ago

Hidden internet

I'm seeking some advice. I recently ended my relationship with the father of my children after four on-and-off years. Throughout our time together, we've faced several issues, including his persistent pornography use, adding other women on social media platforms like Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat, and paying for local girls’ OnlyFans accounts. I discovered that he has been spending hundreds of pounds on sex cam websites while I’ve been home with our kids. My biggest concern, however, is something that keeps troubling me. While I was looking through his work laptop, I found email receipts for live webcam sessions, but I also noticed a recent Google search for the "dark web." I don’t know much about it, but after some research, I learned that it can involve disturbing content like illegal pornography and drugs. It seems complicated to access and requires downloading specific software. However, I don’t have any evidence that he actually explored this, as his browser history was deleted, leaving only his recent searches. Given his significant pornography addiction, I can't shake the feeling that the worst is possible. I'm not inclined to involve the police unless I have clear evidence of someone being harmed, but I keep hoping I'm mistaken. I mentioned my concerns to him during our breakup, and he dismissed them, calling me ridiculous. Is there any way I can have someone look into this without concrete evidence? He primarily uses his phone, which I can't access, and he also has a VPN installed. I really don't want to falsely accuse anyone, but the thought continues to linger in my mind, and since we no longer live together, I have no way to investigate further.


eaglesolar50 • 1mo ago
It sounds like you’re in a very difficult situation. Have you considered speaking with a professional, such as a therapist or a counselor, to help process your feelings and concerns regarding his behavior and its impact on you and your children?
wizardrebel39 • 1mo ago
I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this tough situation. Your instincts are valid; prioritize your and your kids' safety. Consider consulting a professional or a trusted friend for advice. You deserve peace of mind.
foxlion16 • 1mo ago
I’m really sorry you’re going through this. Trust your instincts and prioritize your safety and that of your kids. It might help to consult a professional, like a therapist or a counselor, who can provide guidance. If you feel the situation escalates or your kids are at risk, don’t hesitate to seek legal advice. Take care!
jacoblion • 1mo ago
Your concerns are valid given the context. It's essential to prioritize your children's safety and your own peace of mind. While you can't investigate without concrete evidence, consider seeking advice from a professional, like a counselor or legal expert, who specializes in domestic issues. Maintain open communication with trusted friends or family for support. If any new evidence arises or if your worries escalate, you might reconsider involving authorities. Trust your instincts and prioritize the well-being of you and your children.