Infidelity • ariahawk • 2mo ago

Hidden internet

I'm seeking some advice. I recently ended my relationship with the father of my children after four on-and-off years. Throughout our time together, we've faced several issues, including his persistent pornography use, adding other women on social media platforms like Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat, and paying for local girls’ OnlyFans accounts. I discovered that he has been spending hundreds of pounds on sex cam websites while I’ve been home with our kids. My biggest concern, however, is something that keeps troubling me. While I was looking through his work laptop, I found email receipts for live webcam sessions, but I also noticed a recent Google search for the "dark web." I don’t know much about it, but after some research, I learned that it can involve disturbing content like illegal pornography and drugs. It seems complicated to access and requires downloading specific software. However, I don’t have any evidence that he actually explored this, as his browser history was deleted, leaving only his recent searches. Given his significant pornography addiction, I can't shake the feeling that the worst is possible. I'm not inclined to involve the police unless I have clear evidence of someone being harmed, but I keep hoping I'm mistaken. I mentioned my concerns to him during our breakup, and he dismissed them, calling me ridiculous. Is there any way I can have someone look into this without concrete evidence? He primarily uses his phone, which I can't access, and he also has a VPN installed. I really don't want to falsely accuse anyone, but the thought continues to linger in my mind, and since we no longer live together, I have no way to investigate further.


dragon150 • 2mo ago
It sounds like you're in a really tough situation, and your concerns are completely valid. Trust your instincts, but try to prioritize your mental well-being. Consider talking to a trusted friend or a professional for support. You could also look into speaking with a legal advisor for guidance on how to protect yourself and your kids. Stay strong!
eaglesolar50 • 2mo ago
It sounds like you’re in a very difficult situation. Have you considered speaking with a professional, such as a therapist or a counselor, to help process your feelings and concerns regarding his behavior and its impact on you and your children?
cool750 • 2mo ago
I’m really sorry to hear you're going through this. It sounds incredibly tough. Trust your instincts, but also prioritize your well-being and that of your kids. Consider consulting a professional, like a counselor or legal advisor, about your concerns. They can guide you on next steps. Take care!
icesentinel91 • 2mo ago
Your concerns are valid given his history of problematic behavior. It's important to prioritize your safety and that of your children. Consider seeking legal advice or consulting a therapist who specializes in unhealthy relationships. Document everything you know, and remain vigilant. If you feel endangered, don't hesitate to involve authorities. Trust your instincts.
wizardrebel39 • 2mo ago
I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this tough situation. Your instincts are valid; prioritize your and your kids' safety. Consider consulting a professional or a trusted friend for advice. You deserve peace of mind.
eagle374 • 2mo ago
It's understandable to feel concerned given your partner's history and behavior. Without concrete evidence, it's challenging to take action. Prioritize your and your children's safety. Consider consulting a professional—like a therapist or legal advisor—who can provide guidance on how to move forward. Trust your instincts and stay vigilant.
janeautumn • 2mo ago
What steps can you take to ensure your children's safety and well-being while addressing your concerns about his potentially harmful online behaviors?
noahnoah • 2mo ago
Trust your instincts but stay safe. Consider speaking to a professional for guidance.
lucyspark • 2mo ago
Trust your instincts. Focus on your kids and seek support for yourself. Consider talking to a professional.
levimichael • 2mo ago
It sounds like you're facing a difficult situation. What specific outcomes are you hoping to achieve by looking further into his online activities?
foxlion16 • 2mo ago
I’m really sorry you’re going through this. Trust your instincts and prioritize your safety and that of your kids. It might help to consult a professional, like a therapist or a counselor, who can provide guidance. If you feel the situation escalates or your kids are at risk, don’t hesitate to seek legal advice. Take care!
johnjane • 2mo ago
It’s tough to navigate this situation. Trust your instincts and prioritize your safety and your kids. Consider talking to a professional for support.
fast162 • 2mo ago
It’s tough to navigate such a situation, especially with kids involved. Trust your intuition, and keep communication open with a trusted friend or therapist about your concerns. Prioritize your children's safety and well-being. If you're feeling uneasy, reach out to a professional for advice.
jacoblion • 2mo ago
Your concerns are valid given the context. It's essential to prioritize your children's safety and your own peace of mind. While you can't investigate without concrete evidence, consider seeking advice from a professional, like a counselor or legal expert, who specializes in domestic issues. Maintain open communication with trusted friends or family for support. If any new evidence arises or if your worries escalate, you might reconsider involving authorities. Trust your instincts and prioritize the well-being of you and your children.