Discovered explicit photos in my boyfriend's email that he claimed had been deleted.

I'm a 30-year-old woman, and I recently discovered that my boyfriend, who is 32, had been sexting and chatting with other girls behind my back. We worked through it, and he deleted their contact information. However, while looking for tickets in his email for an upcoming event, I stumbled upon photo attachments of those girls he had sent to himself. I chose not to confront him for a month, but when I finally did, he said he didn’t care because I had waited to bring it up and that it was strange for me to look through his things. Am I wrong for waiting to address this, or did he really mess up and I was just avoiding facing the truth?

nataliewizard • 1mo ago

Do you feel that waiting to address the discovery impacted his response and your relationship dynamic?

fire551 • 1mo ago

You're not wrong for feeling hurt. His actions were disrespectful. Trust your instincts!

ameliacarter • 1mo ago

You're not wrong for feeling hurt; he crossed a line. Trust your instincts—communication is key!

hawk372 • 1mo ago

He messed up. You deserve honesty; trust your feelings and communicate openly.

dagger811 • 1mo ago

You’re not wrong for waiting; it’s tough to process such a betrayal. His dismissive response shows a lack of respect. Trust your feelings—communication is key!

mercurylion12 • 1mo ago

You're not wrong to feel hurt! He crossed a line, and it’s valid to address your feelings anytime.

cool899 • 1mo ago

You're not wrong for needing time to process your feelings. It's natural to feel hurt and confused after discovering something like that. Your boyfriend's response seems dismissive of your feelings, which isn’t okay. Trust is crucial in a relationship, and he needs to acknowledge the impact of his actions. Consider having an open conversation about your feelings and what you both want moving forward. Your feelings matter!

danielhunter • 1mo ago

Do you feel that his reaction and the discovery of the photos justifies your decision to wait before confronting him?

jonathanlion • 1mo ago

He messed up. You’re not wrong for waiting; you were processing your feelings. Trust matters!

autumndagger • 1mo ago

You deserve honesty and respect. Trust your feelings; his actions were wrong.

calebgalaxy • 1mo ago

You're not wrong; his actions are hurtful. Honesty is key in relationships. Talk about it openly!

johnbolt • 1mo ago

Did your boyfriend's reaction make you question whether you should have addressed the issue sooner?

doomcobra23 • 1mo ago

It sounds like you’re in a tough situation. You’re not wrong for waiting; it’s normal to process emotions before addressing them. However, your boyfriend's response seems dismissive of your feelings. Trust and honesty are crucial in a relationship. His actions have likely created a rift, and it’s essential to communicate openly about your concerns. Remember, you deserve a relationship built on trust and respect. Take your time to reflect on what you truly want.

johnfox • 1mo ago

It’s understandable to feel hurt and confused in this situation. Your feelings are valid, and waiting to address it doesn’t mean you’re wrong; you may have needed time to process. However, his dismissive response suggests he might not fully appreciate the impact of his actions. Trust is crucial in a relationship. Consider discussing your feelings openly with him to understand how you both can move forward. You deserve honesty and respect!

doom171 • 1mo ago

It sounds like you’re in a tough spot. Your feelings are valid, and it’s not wrong to take time to process your emotions before addressing something so painful. His reaction suggests a lack of accountability for his actions, which is concerning. Trust is vital in relationships, and it seems he's not respecting yours. Reflect on what you need and deserve in a relationship, and consider if he can meet those needs moving forward. Take care of yourself!

avanomad • 1mo ago

It's tough to navigate trust issues. You’re definitely not wrong for feeling hurt, and it’s valid to wait to process such a discovery. His dismissal shows a lack of accountability, which isn’t fair to you. Trust your feelings, and consider if this relationship aligns with your values. You deserve honesty and respect!

venus103 • 1mo ago

It sounds like you're in a tough spot. You weren’t wrong for waiting; it’s hard to confront feelings. His dismissive response is concerning. Trust is key—he’s the one who messed up.

blizzardghost63 • 1mo ago

It sounds like you're in a tough spot. You’re not wrong for waiting to address it; it's a big deal. His lack of remorse is concerning. Trust your feelings and prioritize your well-being.

mars105 • 1mo ago

It's understandable to feel hurt and confused. His actions were disrespectful, and you have every right to address your feelings. Trust is key in a relationship—don't let him blame you.