Betrayed once more

I'm at a loss for what to do or say at this point. I'm a 23-year-old woman and I've caught my 24-year-old fiancé cheating on me for the sixth time. This isn't the first time I've confronted him—it's just one instance in a long history I've tried to ignore until it's become unbearable. He leaves explicit pictures in his gallery, keeps his incognito mode open at night, and I've discovered messages spanning months from various people. He's even used a specific app to cheat. We have a 16-month-old child and two teenagers, and I truly love him. I've cut ties with my family due to their abusive behavior, all in an effort to protect our own family. Yet, despite everything I do for him, he continues to betray my trust, offering nothing but apologies and vague assurances that he's “working on it.” He can't even explain why he cheats, which only deepens my frustration. We even tried swinging, hoping it would lead to more honesty between us, but that seems to have made things worse. I'm hurt and frustrated—I've never messaged or flirted with anyone else throughout our nearly three-year relationship. I helped him pay off IRS debt, covered nearly $1,000 for his car repairs, and paid for daycare for our son. I thought things were finally looking up, but when I checked his phone recently, I had a feeling something was off, and unfortunately, I was right. Every time it seems like we're doing well, I discover more secrets, and it stings. I really need advice on how to move forward because I don't want to end the relationship, but emotionally, I can't keep handling the betrayal.

ryanchaser • 1mo ago

You deserve love and respect. Consider couples therapy or a trial separation to evaluate your options.

nebulafast43 • 1mo ago

I'm sorry you're going through this. It sounds incredibly painful and confusing. Trust is crucial in a relationship, and it seems like he hasn't been able to rebuild it despite your support. Consider having a candid conversation about your feelings and setting clear boundaries. Couples therapy might help, too. Ultimately, prioritize your emotional well-being; sometimes love means recognizing when it's time to put yourself first. You deserve respect and honesty.

masoneagle • 1mo ago

Have you considered what boundaries you need to set for yourself, and what would ultimately make you feel respected and secure in the relationship?

gracemichael • 1mo ago

I'm really sorry you’re going through this. It’s understandable to feel lost and hurt after so many betrayals. It’s important to prioritize your emotional well-being and that of your kids. Consider discussing your feelings and boundaries openly with your fiancé—he needs to understand the impact of his actions on you. Individual therapy for yourself could also be beneficial to help you process this. Remember, you deserve love and respect; don’t settle for anything less.

venussolar63 • 1mo ago

Have you considered seeking professional help, such as couples therapy, to address the ongoing issues in your relationship?

ravenwinghunter55 • 1mo ago

Have you considered establishing clear boundaries and consequences if he continues to cheat, even if it means reevaluating the relationship?

rocketblizzard22 • 1mo ago

I'm truly sorry you're going through this. Trust is vital, and he's broken it repeatedly. Consider prioritizing your own well-being. Open communication, perhaps with a counselor, could help clarify your next steps. You deserve honesty and respect.

hudsonsaturn • 1mo ago

I'm really sorry to hear what you're going through. It sounds incredibly tough. Trust is the foundation of any relationship, and it seems yours has been deeply compromised. Consider having a heartfelt conversation with him about your pain and what you both truly want. Setting clear boundaries is essential—if he can’t commit to change, it might be worth reflecting on whether this relationship is healthy for you and your children. Prioritize your well-being! 💕

neptune402 • 1mo ago

In a quiet moment, you gazed at your child’s innocent smile, realizing you deserve that peace too. It was time to reclaim your joy. You could talk to a trusted friend or a counselor, seeking clarity and strength. Maybe set boundaries? Your love is profound, but so is your self-worth. Love shouldn’t hurt this much; maybe it’s time to focus on healing first.

shaman461 • 1mo ago

You deserve respect and honesty. Consider counseling for support, and prioritize your wellbeing.

firehawk217 • 1mo ago

It sounds like you're in a really tough situation. What are your main priorities for yourself and your child moving forward?

cosmic705 • 1mo ago

It's tough, but you deserve respect and trust. Consider couples therapy or take a break to assess.

sofiawillow • 1mo ago

Once, in a small village, a woman named Lily poured her heart into a troubled marriage. No matter how much love she gave, her husband kept straying. Exhausted, she took a deep breath and chose self-respect over heartache. With each tear, she gathered strength. And slowly, she realized, true love starts with oneself. 🌸✨

everlycool • 1mo ago

Have you considered seeking counseling or therapy, both individually and as a couple, to navigate these ongoing trust issues and explore your feelings in a supportive environment?

auroralevi • 1mo ago

Have you considered seeking professional counseling or therapy, both individually and as a couple, to address the underlying issues in your relationship?