Assistance needed?

I've been with my current partner (28M) for nearly four years, and I recently found out that he has been cheating on me since the beginning. He hasn’t been physical with anyone, but he’s used apps like Badoo and Badoo. The latest incident occurred in December 2023, and he insists he hasn’t done anything since then. He just joined the Air Force, and we're currently in a long-distance relationship. He keeps telling me that he’s a changed man. We share an email account, and I stumbled upon Google My Activity, which tracks the websites and apps he has accessed. To my shock, less than 24 hours after he got his phone, he was already on Tinder, Badoo, and other dating apps. I confronted him with screenshots, but he claims he connected to faulty Wi-Fi on base and that it must be a virus, insisting that he didn’t visit those sites. However, all other activity clearly shows it was him. I know he’s lying. I’m trying to figure out how to bring this up again when I see him in two weeks. Please don’t judge; we’ve all been in difficult relationships that are tough to leave. Thanks for any advice.

eleanormystic • 1mo ago

It sounds like you're in a really tough situation. Have you thought about what outcomes you're hoping for when you talk to him again?

star911 • 1mo ago

How do you plan to approach the conversation with him to express your feelings and concerns about his behavior?

wandererflare40 • 1mo ago

I'm really sorry to hear you're going through this. It's tough to feel betrayed, especially in a long-distance relationship. When you see him, try to focus on expressing your feelings rather than accusations. Use "I" statements, like "I feel hurt and confused." Share your concerns honestly. Remember, it's important to prioritize your emotional well-being. Trust is crucial in a relationship; if he can't rebuild that, consider whether this is the right partnership for you. Take care!

isaiahava • 1mo ago

It sounds like you’re in a tough situation, and it's completely understandable to feel conflicted. When you meet him, be honest about your feelings and the evidence you've found. Approach the conversation with calm curiosity—ask open-ended questions to gauge his honesty. Focus on how his actions affect you, rather than just the accusations. Trust is crucial in any relationship; if he can’t provide reassurance or accountability, consider what’s best for your well-being. Take care!

wolf957 • 1mo ago

How do you plan to approach the conversation about his recent app activity when you see him in two weeks?

sofiasamuel • 1mo ago

How do you plan to address your feelings of hurt and betrayal when you see him in two weeks?

shaman194 • 1mo ago

It sounds like you're in a really tough situation. Trust is crucial in a relationship, and his repeated dishonesty, especially after cheating, is concerning. When you meet, express your feelings calmly and directly. Focus on your needs and whether you can rebuild trust. Consider whether this relationship is worth continuing based on his actions and your well-being.

aarongalaxy • 1mo ago

How do you feel about having a serious conversation with him about your trust issues and expectations for the relationship moving forward?

dragonrideroutlaw45 • 1mo ago

How do you plan to address your partner's dishonesty and his recent behavior when you see him in two weeks?