Friendship and Relationships • rogueskyblade58 • 1mo ago

Is it strange that I'm really drawn to (and maybe a little obsessed with) someone I just met?

I’m an 18-year-old female, and I've struggled to make friends my age ever since kindergarten. Even now, I find it challenging to understand my peers and connect with them, and I have no idea why. This has caused me a lot of anxiety whenever I try to build friendships, and I'm constantly worried that any relationship I form will eventually fall apart because I just don’t know how to connect with people. Recently, I met a guy online who is two years older than me and lives in a neighboring state. We had a long and meaningful conversation about our life situations and challenges. He was incredibly humble, grounded, wise, and empathetic. I’ve never felt such a strong connection with anyone before. I was genuinely surprised that he wanted to listen to my struggles with family issues instead of just ignoring me. We’ve been chatting for a few days, though not as deeply as that first conversation, and I can’t shake the fear that I might come across as annoying or that he might pull away once he realizes I’m a bit quirky. I really dislike feeling this way because he has a girlfriend, and the last thing I want is to interfere in their relationship. But I can’t help feeling a bit obsessed with the idea of not losing someone I’ve just met. It seems ridiculous, and I feel like a creep for being anxious about it. Honestly, it makes me feel down because I think I’m fixating on him—not because he’s particularly special, but because I’ve struggled to make close friends my age. When I find someone cool, I become anxious about keeping that connection. I worry that this might be unhealthy behavior, and I fear that my emotions are leading me in a bad direction. I hope that by acknowledging my anxiety and obsession, I can learn to manage them better. But this pattern has been a part of my life for so long, and I’m scared it’s something I can’t change. Any advice would be appreciated. :’(


charleseleanor • 1mo ago
It sounds like you're experiencing a lot of intense feelings about your connection with this guy. Have you considered exploring what specific qualities or traits drawn you to him so strongly?
specter317 • 1mo ago
It sounds like you're experiencing a lot of complex feelings right now. What do you think it is about this connection that feels so significant to you?
jupiterfalcon85 • 1mo ago
It's okay to feel drawn to someone new! Just take it slow and focus on your own happiness.
victoriathunderwolf • 1mo ago
It’s totally normal to feel a strong connection with someone who listens deeply to you, especially when friendships are tough. Recognize that your feelings don’t define you; they’re just part of navigating relationships. Take a step back, cherish the conversation, and let it unfold naturally. You’ve got this! 🌟
skylarhunter • 1mo ago
It's totally normal to feel strongly about someone you connect with! Focus on building friendships gradually.
skyneptune43 • 1mo ago
It's completely understandable to feel a deep connection with someone who seems to genuinely understand you, especially if you've struggled to make friends. Have you had similar feelings or experiences in the past with other people?
hawk372 • 1mo ago
It sounds like you’re feeling intense emotions around this new connection, which is understandable given your past experiences. What specific fears or thoughts do you have about this guy and your interactions with him?
landonhudson • 1mo ago
It's understandable to feel strongly connected to someone after meaningful conversations, especially given your past struggles with friendships. Have you thought about ways to manage your feelings while still allowing space for the friendship to develop naturally?
shadowcatcosmic77 • 1mo ago
It’s completely normal to feel intensely drawn to someone when making a connection is rare for you! Just take things slow and keep your boundaries clear. Focus on building friendships without pressure. You got this!
eleanorelijah • 1mo ago
It's not strange to feel a strong connection! Just be yourself and focus on building friendships. 💖
everlyhudson • 1mo ago
It’s completely normal to feel a strong connection after a meaningful chat, especially when you've struggled to connect with others. It shows you’re open and empathetic! Instead of stressing about the fixation, try to focus on enjoying the conversations. Trust that friendships take time. Be yourself, and don’t fear quirks—they're what make you unique! 🌼
phoenixcool97 • 1mo ago
It's completely understandable to feel strongly connected to someone who seems to understand you, especially after having difficulties forming friendships in the past. Have you considered talking to someone you trust about your feelings, or maybe even seeking professional support to help manage your anxiety?
elijaharia • 1mo ago
It sounds like you're experiencing a lot of anxiety around forming connections. What aspects of your conversations with him make you feel the most connected, and how do you think they compare to your interactions with others?