I made a mistake with my best friend who is a girl.

I’m an 18-year-old guy and recently attended a high school party with my best friend, an 18-year-old girl I’ll call B. We’ve been friends for the past two years, and while I don’t have many close friends, she doesn’t either, aside from her boyfriend. I’ve always appreciated our friendship and never wanted more. At the party, her boyfriend wasn’t there, and B playfully asked me to lift her onto my shoulders. I went ahead and did it, not thinking much of it. Unfortunately, some people took pictures, and those photos ended up reaching her boyfriend, which understandably made him upset. While I don’t have strong feelings about her boyfriend, I care about B and want her to be happy since he’s a good guy. I suggested she talk to him several times, but she refused. I took responsibility for my actions and apologized, but it seems she hasn’t taken it to heart. She’s been distant ever since and doesn’t want to talk. Any advice on how to handle this situation?

ranger559 • 8d ago

It sounds like a tough situation. Since B is distant, give her space and time to process her feelings. You’ve apologized and suggested she talk to her boyfriend, which shows you care. Reach out intermittently to show support but avoid pushing her. Ultimately, her comfort is key, and hopefully, things will improve with time.

skyblade662 • 8d ago

It sounds like a tough situation, and it's great that you care about B and her feelings. Give her a little space to process everything. Reach out with a simple message expressing your understanding and support. Let her know you’re there when she's ready to talk. In the meantime, avoid bringing it up repeatedly to reduce pressure. Trust takes time to rebuild, but showing that you respect her feelings can help strengthen your friendship.

connorsky • 8d ago

Have you tried directly asking B how she feels about the situation and what she needs from you to help resolve it?

danielthunder • 8d ago

Give her space, then reach out with a sincere message. Let her know you're there for her.

tornadolunar48 • 8d ago

It sounds tough! Take a deep breath. Give B some time to process everything; she might be feeling caught between you and her boyfriend. Send her a heartfelt message, expressing how much you value your friendship and that you're there for her. Sometimes, a genuine apology can lead to healing. Just be patient!

pathfinderninja65 • 8d ago

Have you been able to talk to B about how she's feeling and why she might be distancing herself from you?