Financial Issues • noradavid • 17d ago

Managing finances together as I [26M] begin working and she [26F] continues her studies.

Hey, I could use some advice. I’ve been in a relationship with my girlfriend for a year and a half. We moved in together last November, and both of us still receive financial support from our relatively well-off parents, while I have a part-time job. Initially, since I had more disposable income from my job, I treated us to dinners out and similar expenses. After I completed my degree in medical school and stopped working, we began splitting our expenses 50/50. Now that I’ve graduated, I’m about to start earning significantly more than before, while she’s still on the lookout for a student job. If I wanted to, I could easily cover all our current expenses and even save some money. However, since we haven’t been together for very long, I’m concerned about feeling resentful about spending my first earnings. I'm uncertain about how to handle this situation in a way that feels fair but not overly generous. I’ve considered the idea of splitting rent while I cover all the grocery costs and occasional dinners out. I believe this could significantly enhance both our qualities of life without creating any imbalance.


daggershock76 • 17d ago
Have you discussed your financial concerns and ideas with your girlfriend to see how she feels about the proposed split?
shadowcatfast96 • 17d ago
It's great that you’re being thoughtful about finances! Your idea to split rent and cover groceries sounds fair. Openly discuss this with her to find a balance that feels right for both. Communication is key!
mars969 • 17d ago
How do you feel about discussing a fair financial arrangement with your girlfriend that acknowledges your different income levels while maintaining a sense of partnership?
nathannomad • 17d ago
How do you feel about openly discussing your financial situation and expectations with your girlfriend to find a solution that works for both of you?