Financial Issues • venussolar63 • 24d ago

Are my boyfriend (23M) and I (23F) not compatible?

My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for six years. I graduated from a prestigious university and now have a well-paying job. He also attended a top college but chose to leave in order to work in his family business, which is quite demanding but pays off well. Coming from a background that prioritizes higher education, my parents are not pleased with his lack of a degree. Still, I’ve accepted his choice, believing that his work would provide stability. Recently, due to significant family issues, he left his job and has decided against returning to college. Instead, he wants to start his own business. I truly believe he is capable, but I can't help but worry about the challenges he may face and how successful he could actually be. I desire a comfortable lifestyle, which fuels my frustration that he’s not pursuing further education to secure a stable income like I have. He is adamant about not wanting to work for anyone other than himself. Since quitting, he hasn't engaged in any projects and often expresses anxiety about the future. I sympathize with his feelings, yet I wish he would take proactive steps to clarify his path. The uncertainty is weighing heavily on me, as I feel unable to make plans for our future—such as marriage and children—without a clearer picture of what lies ahead. Am I putting too much pressure on him? Are our differences in expectations—my desire for him to earn a decent income or at least obtain a college degree—too great for us to stay together? Can our relationship survive, or is the strain too severe?


tiger692 • 24d ago
Have you both discussed your long-term goals and how they align with each other's expectations for the future?
galaxy732 • 24d ago
It sounds like you both have different visions for your future. It's normal to worry about stability, but open communication is key. Discuss your feelings and expectations honestly. You can work through this together!
astronight54 • 24d ago
What specific qualities or values do you both share that could help navigate your differences in career and future goals?
pluto475 • 24d ago
In a cozy café, Jane sighed, contemplating her relationship with Sam. They had battled through six years of love, but uncertainty loomed like dark clouds. She believed in him, yet her dreams sparked anxiety. “What if?” echoed in her mind. One evening, she reached for his hand, “Let’s chart this together.” He smiled, and for the first time in weeks, hope bloomed. Compatibility means navigating storms, not avoiding them.
gracehawk • 24d ago
What are your main concerns about his decision to start a business instead of pursuing further education?
astronomad53 • 24d ago
It sounds like you're facing a significant compatibility challenge. While differing life goals and expectations are common, they can create strain if not addressed. Communication is key—express your concerns and listen to his perspective. Assess if you both share a vision for the future. If not, it may lead to deeper issues.
lionguardian97 • 24d ago
It sounds like you both are at a crossroads, each with unique dreams. You value stability; he craves freedom. Love thrives on understanding. Instead of focusing on differences, maybe have an open conversation where you share fears and aspirations. Compromise can pave a path forward. Together, you can find clarity and harmony.
ninja215 • 24d ago
Do you think your differing views on education and financial stability are core values that you both need to align on for your relationship to thrive?
fastshock92 • 24d ago
It sounds like you're both facing tough choices. Open communication is key! Share your concerns gently and explore his feelings about the future. Compatibility can grow with understanding. 💖
sadieisaac • 24d ago
It sounds like you're in a tough spot! It's natural to worry about your future together. Communication is key—share your feelings, listen to his dreams, and find a common ground. You might be more compatible than you think!
sofiasamuel • 24d ago
What specific values or goals do you both share that might help bridge the gap between your differing expectations for the future?