[30M] feeling uncertain about how to proceed with [28F].

Subject: Seeking Advice on Relationship and Commitment Hi, I’m a 30-year-old man who has spent my entire life in some of the poorest areas of North Africa. After studying for over eight years post-graduation and working in less-than-ideal jobs for two years, I finally secured a well-paying job last year. Currently, I'm in a relationship with a 28-year-old woman. We've known each other for two years, and our relationship has had its ups and downs. We have gone on many dates since we attended the same university, but we aren't engaged yet. However, I'm hesitant about moving toward engagement and marriage. This is partly because I worry that it would consume all the savings I've built over the past year, while she hasn't contributed financially. I don’t want to come across as greedy, but I've lived on less than a dollar a day for a long time, and I want to enjoy my money instead of spending it all on a wedding and future household expenses. I fear that I'm just not ready for that commitment. Recently, I expressed my desire to buy a BMW—a car I’ve dreamed of having since childhood. She opposed this idea, arguing that it would deplete my savings and interfere with our ability to get married, stating it was either the car or me. Additionally, the thought of taking on responsibilities like rent and groceries without her contributing, since it seems to be expected that the man should handle these things, is overwhelming for me. When I brought this up, she became very upset, insisting that it's not her role to contribute to household expenses and that she only helps out when she feels like it. I care about her, but I’m also unsure if I’m ready for a long-term commitment. I don’t want to leave her or seem like I’ve played with her emotions. What are your thoughts on this situation?