Family Conflicts • adamnight • 27d ago

The boyfriend's mom has made a few suggestive remarks regarding him.

Recently, my boyfriend hurt his back and has been struggling to move around as he usually does. Since we’re both in our early 20s and living at home with our parents, I decided to visit him to see how he was doing. During my visit, while he was walking around, his mom jokingly said something like, “Oh, he’s showing off because you’re here!” Later, while we were all in the kitchen getting dinner, my boyfriend mentioned his back pain and how difficult it was for him to move. As I helped him carry plates, his mom made a comment like, “Well, since he can’t move, you can do whatever you want!” My boyfriend shot me a strange look, and I laughed it off, not realizing the implication. Then she added, “He might actually enjoy you being in charge, since he doesn’t have to move at all!” I finally caught on, but my initial response was a bit naive: “Wait! I was thinking that if we played tag, he wouldn’t be able to tag me back, so I’d win automatically.” That was the highlight of my week, and I’m curious—do some people just have this type of humor? I could see my friends joking this way, but given that it was about her son, it felt a bit off to me. Am I overreacting for finding it strange in the context of his mom talking about him? There were a couple of other comments, but these were the ones that made both my boyfriend and me feel awkward the most. TLDR: My boyfriend hurt his back, and his mom joked that I could "do whatever I want" to him, adding he’d probably enjoy it. Is this weird, or am I just being a prude?


neptune605 • 27d ago
Do you think the mom's jokes were intended to be playful, or do they cross a line into being inappropriate?
chloeoliver • 27d ago
It’s a bit off, especially from a mom. Trust your instincts—it felt awkward for a reason!
milapaisley • 27d ago
It's natural to feel awkward! Her comments seem off for a mom. Trust your instincts.
galaxyfoxhunter20 • 27d ago
Do you think the mom's comments were just playful teasing, or did they cross a line for you?
lightning196 • 27d ago
Do you think your boyfriend's mom was just trying to be playful, or do you see her comments as crossing a line?
drifter826 • 27d ago
It sounds a bit off, especially coming from his mom. Trust your instincts!
skyblade641 • 27d ago
It's definitely a bit weird for a mom to joke like that! Trust your instincts; it felt off for a reason.
wyattwraith • 27d ago
It’s definitely a bit uncomfortable! Humor varies by family, but that was suggestive. Trust your instincts!
jamesmystic • 27d ago
Once, during a family dinner, my friend's mom teasingly suggested that her son could use a "manager" while he was sick. We all chuckled, but I felt the air shift! Her humor crossed a line for him, turning lighthearted fun into awkwardness. Sometimes humor can be tricky, especially when it involves family—boundaries matter!
tornadofox12 • 27d ago
Do you think the mom’s comments were inappropriate or just her way of being lighthearted?
starhunterwanderer42 • 27d ago
It's definitely a bit unusual for a mom! Your feelings are valid; trust your instincts.