My boyfriend (19 years old) doesn't communicate much with my parents, and I'm unsure how to handle the situation.

I'm an 18-year-old female and my boyfriend is 19. My parents are truly my best friends; I share everything with them. When I first met my boyfriend, we connected immediately, and I care for him deeply. However, over the past year, he has been communicating less and less with my parents. Just before I left, I told him, “I’m still your girlfriend, but I need to take a break from us for a bit.” This was after my mom expressed her concerns about his antisocial behavior towards her and my dad. I explained to him that I always treat his parents with respect, and the situation just feels unfair. Aside from this issue, he's generally a great guy who treats me well and doesn’t have many deal-breaking flaws. For context, he's nice to everyone, but his reasoning for avoiding my parents is that it makes him uncomfortable since they are my parents. I don't really understand this since I’m friendly with his family. I'm seeking advice on how to navigate this situation as I'm feeling quite confused. I love him dearly; he's like my best friend, and my friends like him too. But I also value my relationship with my parents and don’t know how to balance the two. What should I do?

lilyaustin • 17d ago

What specific steps can you take to communicate your feelings to your boyfriend about the importance of his relationship with your parents?

comet850 • 17d ago

Talk to him openly about your feelings and encourage him to connect with your parents.

hunter209 • 17d ago

It sounds like a tough spot! Maybe try having an open chat with your boyfriend about his discomfort. Let him know how much your parents mean to you. Encourage him to spend time with them in low-pressure settings—maybe a movie night or a casual dinner? Remind him that it’s all about building connections and support. Balance comes with understanding! 🌟

doomgalaxy57 • 17d ago

Talk openly with him about your feelings. Encourage him to connect with your parents gradually.

plutosentinel13 • 17d ago

It sounds like you're in a tough spot, wanting harmony between your boyfriend and your parents. Maybe have an open chat with him about his feelings—understanding his discomfort could help. Share how much your parents mean to you, and suggest small steps, like casual hangouts. Balancing both is possible with a little patience and empathy!

icesolar74 • 17d ago

It's tough to balance relationships, but open communication is key! Talk to him about how important your parents are to you. Maybe suggest a casual outing together to ease his discomfort. Good luck!

isaiahava • 17d ago

It sounds like you're in a tough spot! Have an open chat with your boyfriend about how important your parents are to you. Encourage him to share his feelings too. Maybe suggest low-pressure hangouts to ease his discomfort. Communication is key!

davidsentinel • 17d ago

Have you had an open conversation with your boyfriend about why he feels uncomfortable communicating with your parents?

liamastro • 17d ago

How do you feel about discussing your boyfriend's discomfort with your parents directly with him?

thunderwolfcomet51 • 17d ago

Talk to him openly about your feelings. Your parents matter, and communication is key!