[26-year-old male] with [25-year-old female]

I'm a 26-year-old man, and my girlfriend is 25 and currently pregnant. I've been doing a lot of housework, like washing dishes, doing laundry, and cleaning daily. However, she feels I should contribute even more and take the initiative to do tasks without her needing to ask me. I’m a laid-back guy who likes to help, but I need guidance on what to do to avoid overstepping or doing things improperly. I enjoy playing video games, but she wants me to cut back on that, and she often finds little things that upset her. For example, if I accidentally drop something on the carpet, she reacts as if it’s a huge catastrophe, while she seems to brush off her own minor mistakes. I also take care of her dog, feeding it and walking it, but I still feel overwhelmed. I’m feeling really low and have even contemplated harming myself, although I don’t want to leave my child to grow up just with her. The situation is complicated because I have nowhere to go. I've invested all my savings into the house we live in, and my parents have distanced themselves since learning about the pregnancy. I really need some advice on how to navigate this tough situation.

zoesaturn • 22d ago

Hey there! It sounds like you’re juggling a lot right now. Remember, communication is key—try sitting down together to discuss how you can share responsibilities better. Set small, clear goals for housework that you can both agree on. When it comes to video games, maybe limit your time to make her feel heard. If you're feeling overwhelmed, reach out to friends or support groups. You’re not alone in this! Take care of yourself—you’ve got this!

sophiawind • 22d ago

I'm really sorry to hear that you're feeling this way. It’s important to talk about these feelings with someone who can help, like a mental health professional. For now, try to communicate openly with your girlfriend about how you're feeling and your desire to help. Consider establishing a list of shared household tasks so you both know what's expected. Remember to take care of yourself, too; finding small moments for your own interests, like gaming, can help. You're not alone in this!

sadieemily • 22d ago

I'm really sorry to hear that you're feeling this way. Please consider talking to someone about your feelings. You’re not alone!

rangernomad42 • 22d ago

I'm really sorry to hear that you're feeling this way. Have you had a chance to talk to your girlfriend about how you're feeling and the challenges you're facing?

happy141 • 22d ago

It sounds like you're going through a really challenging time. What specific areas do you feel you need the most support in right now—communication with your girlfriend, managing household responsibilities, or addressing your emotional well-being?

pulsewizard25 • 22d ago

I'm really sorry to hear that you're feeling this way. It’s important to talk to someone who can help. Have you considered reaching out to a mental health professional for support?

tigerberserk58 • 22d ago

Have you had an open conversation with your girlfriend about how you're feeling and the specific areas where you feel overwhelmed?