The girl I like, who is 20, seems to be sending me mixed signals. I'm 20 as well.

Sure, here’s a revised version of your text: "Alright, so we both attend the same university. I met her over a year ago, and after a few weeks of getting to know each other, I expressed my feelings for her. However, I soon found out that she was involved with someone else, so I decided to step back. A few months later, she was no longer in that relationship, and we began talking again, albeit intermittently. I made it clear that I was interested in her and wanted something more. I also stated that if she didn’t feel the same way, we should stop communicating altogether. She often responded by saying she wasn’t ready to think about love, which led me to cut contact. When the semester ended, I didn’t reach out. But on the first day back at university, she messaged me wanting to see me. I agreed, and we hung out until it was time for our lectures. Later that day, she texted me saying that meeting up was wrong, as I had previously suggested we should stop talking. I responded that I wasn’t sure what to think. We continued texting, and she mentioned that she had been thinking about me a lot, even having a dream about me. She told her mom about me as well but then added that she wasn't certain if it was love. She said that if I were to propose to her in a few years, she wouldn't refuse, but she also mentioned that if someone else good came along before me, she might accept their proposal. (It's worth noting that we both have strong religious beliefs, which is why marriage is part of the conversation.) I’m really confused about what she wants. I'm quite mature in my approach, but she seems unsure, and that indecisiveness frustrates me. I genuinely like her and can envision a future with her, but it seems like she doesn’t share that same level of commitment. What do you think? What would you do in my situation? TL;DR: A girl says she’s been thinking about me a lot, finds me attractive, told her mom about me, and dreams about me, but she’s uncertain about her feelings and whether she wants to be with me."

adammadelyn • 24d ago

Talk openly with her! Clear communication can help you both understand each other better.

harperryan • 24d ago

It sounds like she’s uncertain about her feelings. Maybe give her space, then check in later?

saturn422 • 24d ago

It sounds like she’s really conflicted about her feelings. Give her some space to sort things out. Keep communicating openly, but focus on building a friendship for now. Let her know you’re interested without putting pressure on her. If she truly likes you, she’ll come around when she's ready!

rogueskyblade58 • 24d ago

It sounds like she enjoys your company but is grappling with her feelings and commitment levels. Her mixed signals indicate uncertainty, which can be frustrating. If you genuinely like her, consider giving her space while being open about your feelings. A clear, honest conversation might help you both understand where you stand.

seeker520 • 24d ago

Based on your situation, are you looking for advice on how to communicate your feelings to her again, or do you want to know whether it’s worth pursuing her further?

orbitblizzard95 • 24d ago

It sounds like she's genuinely interested but grappling with her feelings and commitment. Her mixed signals indicate uncertainty, likely stemming from her past relationship or fear of moving too fast. Open communication is key; express your feelings but also clarify your relationship expectations. Be patient but prioritize your own emotional well-being.

jonathanhawk • 24d ago

What do you think her mixed signals indicate about her feelings for you?

shockmars62 • 24d ago

What do you think she means when she says she’s been thinking about you but isn't ready for a relationship?

orbit360 • 24d ago

What do you think her mixed signals mean for your potential relationship?

owenrebel • 24d ago

It sounds like you're in a tough spot! Mixed signals can be really confusing. It's great that you’ve communicated your feelings clearly. Right now, it might help to give her some space to sort out her feelings. Focus on yourself and your interests. If she reaches out again, you can gently express that you need clarity on her intentions before proceeding. Remember, you deserve someone who’s excited to be with you! Stay open to whatever comes next.