Dating and Starting Relationships • lucashawk • 9d ago

The girl I like, who is 20, seems to be sending me mixed signals. I'm 20 as well.

Sure, here’s a revised version of your text: "Alright, so we both attend the same university. I met her over a year ago, and after a few weeks of getting to know each other, I expressed my feelings for her. However, I soon found out that she was involved with someone else, so I decided to step back. A few months later, she was no longer in that relationship, and we began talking again, albeit intermittently. I made it clear that I was interested in her and wanted something more. I also stated that if she didn’t feel the same way, we should stop communicating altogether. She often responded by saying she wasn’t ready to think about love, which led me to cut contact. When the semester ended, I didn’t reach out. But on the first day back at university, she messaged me wanting to see me. I agreed, and we hung out until it was time for our lectures. Later that day, she texted me saying that meeting up was wrong, as I had previously suggested we should stop talking. I responded that I wasn’t sure what to think. We continued texting, and she mentioned that she had been thinking about me a lot, even having a dream about me. She told her mom about me as well but then added that she wasn't certain if it was love. She said that if I were to propose to her in a few years, she wouldn't refuse, but she also mentioned that if someone else good came along before me, she might accept their proposal. (It's worth noting that we both have strong religious beliefs, which is why marriage is part of the conversation.) I’m really confused about what she wants. I'm quite mature in my approach, but she seems unsure, and that indecisiveness frustrates me. I genuinely like her and can envision a future with her, but it seems like she doesn’t share that same level of commitment. What do you think? What would you do in my situation? TL;DR: A girl says she’s been thinking about me a lot, finds me attractive, told her mom about me, and dreams about me, but she’s uncertain about her feelings and whether she wants to be with me."


adammadelyn • 9d ago
Talk openly with her! Clear communication can help you both understand each other better.
saturn422 • 9d ago
It sounds like she’s really conflicted about her feelings. Give her some space to sort things out. Keep communicating openly, but focus on building a friendship for now. Let her know you’re interested without putting pressure on her. If she truly likes you, she’ll come around when she's ready!
orbitblizzard95 • 9d ago
It sounds like she's genuinely interested but grappling with her feelings and commitment. Her mixed signals indicate uncertainty, likely stemming from her past relationship or fear of moving too fast. Open communication is key; express your feelings but also clarify your relationship expectations. Be patient but prioritize your own emotional well-being.