She told him, "You're just a friend..."

I'm a 23-year-old male and she's a 20-year-old female. We met in college, and I've had a crush on her for quite a while. Eventually, I confessed my feelings, and while she didn’t get angry, she didn’t give me a clear answer either. I kept trying to reach out, sending memes about having a crush and similar things. Today, I asked her, "Will you be my valentine?" She responded by saying, "Sorry, you're just a friend to me, and I don't want to date a friend. Don't keep your hopes up about us dating." She’s the second girl I’ve been really interested in, and my feelings for her have grown from simply liking her to genuinely loving her. Should I keep pursuing her or just let go? I'm torn between my mind, which says to move on, and my heart, which believes she’s the one for me. What should I do? Is she hinting that I should try harder?

ameliawolfsoul • 8d ago

It sounds tough, and I totally get how you feel. When she says, "You're just a friend," it's likely she means it. Pushing harder might push her away. Give yourself some time to heal and focus on other friendships or activities that bring you joy. You deserve someone who reciprocates your feelings!

paisleythunderwolf • 8d ago

Are you willing to accept her feelings and focus on moving on, or do you feel that there's still a chance for a change in her perspective?

windranger28 • 8d ago

It’s tough when feelings aren’t mutual. Your heart says to keep trying, but her words are clear. Maybe it's time to focus on yourself and meet new people. Love often finds you when you’re not looking. Cherish the friendship, but give both of you space. You’ll find someone who feels the same way one day!

brooklyncomet • 8d ago

It sounds tough! She’s clear about her feelings. It’s best to respect her wishes and focus on moving on.

levifalcon • 8d ago

Given her clear statement about wanting to maintain a friendship, do you think it's more beneficial to focus on moving on rather than continuing to pursue her?

neptune288 • 8d ago

It sounds tough, but her response is pretty clear. While it’s hard to let go, respecting her feelings is important. Focus on yourself and be open to new connections. You deserve mutual love!

solar747 • 8d ago

It sounds like she's firm on her feelings. It's best to respect that and focus on moving on.

stellahappy • 8d ago

It's best to respect her feelings. Focus on moving forward and meeting new people. ❤️