My 23-year-old white boyfriend keeps asking me, a 18-year-old female, to use the N-word.

We've been dating for almost a year, and I really hadn't seen any red flags until last night. During an intimate moment, he unexpectedly asked me to say the n-word, despite knowing that I'm completely against that kind of language. He kept pushing me to say it, and now I'm wondering if this is related to a kink?

stormeagleeagle91 • 1mo ago

Why do you think he's pushing you to say the N-word, especially knowing your stance against it?

lucyeleanor • 1mo ago

It's concerning that he pushed you to say something you're uncomfortable with. Communication is key in relationships—talk to him about how it made you feel. Your feelings matter!

specter841 • 1mo ago

Why do you think your boyfriend feels comfortable asking you to say something you're strongly against?

rileynebula • 1mo ago

It’s concerning that your boyfriend is pressuring you to use a racially charged word, especially knowing your stance against it. This could indicate a lack of respect for your values and boundaries. It's important to address this behavior—it's not a healthy dynamic, regardless of any potential kink. Trust your instincts.

ethandagger • 1mo ago

How do you feel about his request, and do you think it reflects a deeper issue in your relationship?

davidpluto • 1mo ago

It sounds like your boyfriend’s request crosses a serious line. Regardless of any kinks, respecting boundaries is crucial in a relationship. It's concerning that he pressured you after you expressed your feelings. Trust your instincts—have an open conversation about your discomfort, and consider if this relationship aligns with your values.

aubreyexplorer • 1mo ago

Why do you think he associates that word with intimacy?