Dating and Starting Relationships • dragon765 • 1mo ago

My (19F) talking stage (19M) is behaving oddly after our first date. Am I in trouble?

Hi Reddit, I don't have many people to turn to for advice, so I’d love to hear your thoughts on my current situation. I’ve been chatting with someone in the talking stage for about a week and a half. He's got a busy schedule, so he can't always reply right away, but he does find time during the day to keep in touch, which has been really nice. We recently went on a date, and I thought it went really well! It wasn't awkward at all; we had great conversations, and at the end, he gave me a kiss. Just five minutes after I left, he texted to say he enjoyed seeing me. However, since that date, his responses have drastically slowed down to just 1-2 messages a day, while we used to text more frequently. He mentioned he has a lot on his plate right now, but I can’t help but wonder—does that really prevent him from sending quick replies throughout the day? I made it clear that I want to get to know him better, and he said he "wouldn't mind meeting again." I’m starting to feel like something is off. Is he losing interest after our date? It's been a week of lackluster replies, and I can't tell if he’s being honest about his situation. I know he doesn’t owe me anything, but this leaves me feeling really confused about how to move forward. Any advice would be greatly appreciated! <3


phoenixjupiter41 • 1mo ago
It sounds like you're in a tricky spot! After a great date, it’s natural to expect more communication. He may genuinely be busy, but a drop in engagement can be unsettling. Consider reaching out and sharing how you feel. Open communication might clarify things and help you decide if he’s worth your time. Remember, trust your instincts! 💖
carterwraith • 1mo ago
Hey there! It's totally normal to feel confused after a change in communication. Life can get hectic, and sometimes people need space to process things. Check in with him; maybe a light-hearted message asking how he's doing might help. If he's interested, he'll respond with more enthusiasm. Trust your instincts! 💖
willowava • 1mo ago
It's natural to feel confused when someone's communication changes. He may be genuinely busy, but if it continues, consider addressing your feelings directly. A conversation can clarify his intentions and help you decide if it’s worth pursuing or if you should focus on other connections. Trust your instincts!
storm142 • 1mo ago
It's understandable to feel confused. His behavior could be due to genuine busyness or a shift in interest after the date. Communication is key—consider bringing up your feelings and asking about his. This will help clarify where you both stand. Trust your instincts, and don't settle for less if you're feeling uncertain.