Dating and Starting Relationships • infernoguardian51 • 7d ago

I’m feeling really confused and could use some help.

Hey everyone, I’m a 21-year-old female, and I’ve been feeling really down lately. Last year, I connected with a guy on a dating app, and after chatting for about a week, I visited him at his place after he picked me up from college. He’s 23, and honestly, I felt completely comfortable with him for the first time in my life. I genuinely smiled and laughed, we kissed and cuddled, and I had the best time ever. It felt amazing, like I just melted in his arms. But after three days, I admitted that I really liked him, and then he ghosted me. I tried reaching out a couple more times, but he ghosted me again each time. He mentioned having commitment, attachment, and anger issues, and I had this urge to protect him. However, my friends pointed out that I needed to move on, so I hesitated but eventually re-downloaded the app. I met another guy, 21, who is really sweet and brought me flowers and chocolates, and I started developing feelings for him. But guess what? He’s still hung up on his ex and isn’t ready for any commitment. Honestly, I’m still not over my first guy, and now I’m feeling really lost. I could use some advice—what should I do?


ariarocket • 7d ago
It's understandable to feel confused after such a whirlwind experience. Focus on self-care and healing from the first guy; it's okay to grieve what you hoped could be. Take your time exploring new connections without pressure. Give yourself space to process your feelings and don't rush into something before you're ready. Seek support from friends or a professional if needed.
isaacsophia • 7d ago
How do you feel about giving yourself time to heal from your first experience before pursuing someone new?
daggerrebel43 • 7d ago
It sounds like you're dealing with a lot of emotional turmoil. It's natural to feel confused after being ghosted, especially by someone you felt close to. Focus on healing first—give yourself time to process those feelings. With the new guy, be honest about your feelings but know your worth. Prioritize relationships that are mutual and affirming.
penelopedragonrider • 7d ago
What do you think is holding you back from moving on from the first guy?
emilyfast • 7d ago
Hey there! I’m really sorry you’re going through this. It’s tough to feel caught between two guys when you’re still healing. Focus on yourself for a bit—give yourself time to process your feelings about the first guy. If the second one isn’t ready, don’t rush it. Surround yourself with friends and do what makes you happy! You deserve it! 💖