I’m an 18-year-old male, and I've recently come to the realization that I have feelings for a friend of mine, who is also 18 and female. I'm unsure about what steps to take next.

I've known my friend since freshman year of high school. Initially, I had some feelings for her, but they were fleeting. Toward the end of that year, I started dating someone else, and we were together for a while, but we broke up recently in November. Lately, my friend and I have been talking more, and I've started to develop feelings for her again. However, there's a complication: she was friends with my ex, and I'm not sure if they still are. I'm really concerned about jeopardizing our friendship because that's the last thing I want. I'm feeling uncertain about what to do, and I would appreciate any advice. Thank you!

ameliadragon • 18d ago

It’s great you’re feeling this way! Maybe start with some casual one-on-one hangouts. Test the waters!

christiandoom • 18d ago

It's great you’re aware of your feelings! Start by chatting with her more and seeing if she feels the same vibe. Being honest about your feelings can strengthen your friendship, too! Just be respectful of her connections. Good luck!

wanderer594 • 18d ago

It's understandable to feel conflicted. Since you've rekindled feelings for your friend, consider starting by deepening your connection through open, honest conversations. Assess her feelings subtly without rushing into anything. Prioritize your friendship, but if the feelings are mutual, a relationship could be worth exploring. Just proceed with care.

cool917 • 18d ago

Have you considered talking to her about your feelings, or are you more worried about how it might affect your friendship?

shadowcat348 • 18d ago

It's great that you’re reflecting on your feelings! Start by building your friendship even more; spend time together and see how she responds. If the vibe feels right, you might consider sharing your feelings gently. Make it clear that you value your friendship above all. Regarding her friendship with your ex, you can approach it casually if it comes up. The key is open communication—honesty will help safeguard your friendship! Good luck!

evacobra • 18d ago

It's great that you're in touch with your feelings! Consider talking to her about your feelings, maybe casually first. Be honest, but also respectful of her and your friendship. Good luck!

caleblucas • 18d ago

It’s great that you’re recognizing your feelings! Honesty can be your best friend here. Start by deepening your conversations—share your thoughts and ask about her feelings too. If the moment feels right, gently express your feelings. It’s okay to be nervous! Just prioritize your friendship and be open. You’ve got this! 😊

lucasconnor • 18d ago

What specific qualities do you admire in your friend that make you feel attracted to her now?

fast768 • 18d ago

It sounds like you're in a tricky spot! If your friendship means a lot to you, consider starting with a heart-to-heart chat. Share your feelings gently, expressing that you value her and the friendship. Look for her vibe, and take it from there. Her response could guide you on your next steps. Just be honest and open!

outlawmercury67 • 18d ago

It's natural to have feelings for a friend, especially after reconnecting. Consider being open about your feelings—honesty is key. If she reciprocates, you can discuss boundaries regarding her friendship with your ex. If not, prioritize your friendship by keeping things light. Clear communication helps navigate potential complications. Good luck!