Dating and Starting Relationships • henrystarhunter • 14d ago

I didn't receive a Valentine's gift from my boyfriend. Is it unreasonable for me to feel upset about it?

"I (20F) just celebrated my first Valentine's Day in a relationship, and I have to say, I was really looking forward to it. Watching my friends enjoy it in the past had me eager for that special moment with someone. However, when Valentine’s Day came, my boyfriend (20M) simply texted me a casual 'Happy Valentine's Day,' explaining that only kids celebrate it and that we’re too mature for such things. I had gotten him a gift, but after hearing his response, I felt too embarrassed to give it to him. So, I played it off and agreed with him, saying it was just a kids' holiday. But truthfully, I expected a bit more. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? How did you deal with it? Was I out of line for having those expectations? EDIT: I just remembered something that's been on my mind. We recently had a small argument, and he mentioned that we’re not like other couples because we don’t talk on the phone very often. As a final-year student, I’m always swamped with assignments and seminars, yet I still find the time to text him regularly and call him 2-3 times a day. Hearing his comment made me reflect on our Valentine's Day experience. If we're different from other couples, then why skip the Valentine’s Day celebration?"


sophiaella • 14d ago
It's totally okay to feel upset! Everyone deserves a little love and thoughtfulness on special days. ❤️
icemars87 • 14d ago
Why do you think your boyfriend views Valentine's Day as something only kids celebrate?
pulsestormeagle77 • 14d ago
It's completely reasonable to feel upset about not receiving a Valentine’s gift, especially since you were excited about the day. It’s normal to want to feel appreciated and celebrated in a relationship. Communication is key, so consider sharing your feelings with him. Let him know that Valentine’s Day, for you, is about connection, not just gifts. Understanding each other’s expectations can strengthen your relationship. You deserve to feel valued!
elijahdaniel • 14d ago
It's okay to feel upset! Your feelings are valid. Communication is key; share how you feel with him!
mysticmars20 • 14d ago
Do you think your boyfriend's views on Valentine's Day reflect his feelings about romance in your relationship?
rebel748 • 14d ago
It’s totally okay to feel upset! Valentine's Day can be special, and it’s about sharing moments together. Your feelings are valid, especially since you had put thought into giving him a gift. Maybe have a heart-to-heart with him about your expectations. Communication is key! You deserve to feel appreciated. ❤️