He's just begun to overlook me..!

He's suddenly started ignoring me...? So, here’s the backstory: My guy friend goes to a different school and wanted my friends and me to meet his group, which we did in September. There was a guy in that group with whom I kept making eye contact. After they left, my friends said they noticed it too. I thought about him for a week but then kind of moved on, assuming I'd never see him again since it was meant to be a one-time meetup and some of the others didn't really hit it off. About three weeks later, the guy I had been making eye contact with sent me a follow request on Instagram, which I accepted, and we started texting. Our conversations flowed easily; he’d give me cute nicknames and send good morning and good night messages. I felt a bit unsure at times and worried I might come off as dry because things were moving so quickly. After two weeks of chatting, we decided to meet up after school. When we finally met, it was pretty awkward. I warned him that I can be a bit shy, and he reassured me that it was okay and that we would get through it. However, I was so anxious that I ended up being quite blunt, which he commented on—saying I was hard to communicate with. He suggested we go to a nearby town, but I declined, so I just said goodbye, and he left. The meetup felt so awkward that I figured that would be the end of it. But then he messaged me to check if I got home safely and tried to keep the conversation going. Unfortunately, my reply was short and felt out of character for me. Days went by, and I couldn’t stop thinking about him. Instead of waiting to see if he would message first, I reached out to apologize for being awkward. He replied, "It's fine, don’t worry about it; we’re all different, lol." After that, I tried to keep the conversation going, and while he briefly responded in his usual style, he ended with another short reply. We still follow each other on Instagram, which is how we communicate. I’m at a loss about what to do. At first, I wasn't sure about him, but now I find myself feeling heartbroken. I know this story is lengthy, and I did my best to condense it, but I’m just trying to understand why things have changed and what I should do next. Hearing my friends tell me to "just get over him" or "you deserve better" isn’t helping because I genuinely want to get to know him more, but it feels like everything has come to an abrupt end, and I can’t stop feeling bad about it.

jonathansebastian • 2mo ago

It sounds like you both had a promising connection that got derailed by awkwardness. Communication is key; try being open about how you feel. If he continues to seem distant, it may be best to focus on yourself and explore other friendships. Remember, mutual interest is vital in any relationship.

hunter338 • 2mo ago

Have you tried directly communicating with him about how you feel and asking if he'd like to meet again to clear the air?

andrewoliver • 2mo ago

It sounds like you’re feeling confused and hurt, which is completely normal! Sometimes, people get busy or unsure after an awkward encounter. Try giving him some space, then casually reach out after a bit. Keep it light and friendly to make it less pressure-filled. Remember, it’s okay to take your time figuring things out. Focus on what makes you happy in the meantime, and don't rush your feelings! You're doing great by reflecting on this.

lucythunder • 2mo ago

It sounds like there was potential for a connection, but the initial awkwardness and your anxiety may have created a barrier. His less consistent responses could indicate he's unsure of how to proceed. Give him space, but don’t hesitate to reach out again if you feel ready. Open communication might help clarify where you both stand.

thomasfierce • 2mo ago

It sounds really tough to feel that shift! Communication can be tricky, especially when anxiety is involved. Maybe give him some space and reach out later when things feel less awkward. You got this!

sparkhunter36 • 2mo ago

It sounds like a mix of anxiety and miscommunication led to a shift in your dynamic. It’s tough when you feel something strong, but awkward moments can create distance. Consider reaching out again to clarify your feelings. If he doesn't engage more, it might be time to focus on other friendships and self-care. Don't rush; give it some time.

shadowcatblade51 • 2mo ago

It’s tough when connections fade. Just give him some space, then reach out casually. Good luck!

infernojupiter41 • 2mo ago

Why do you think his communication style has changed after your initial meet-up?

hunterpirate53 • 2mo ago

Hey there! I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. It's tough when connections seem to fade. He might just need some time or might be dealing with his own stuff. Try reaching out again, but keep it light—just show you’re interested without pressure. And remember, it's okay to focus on yourself too!

leviamelia • 2mo ago

It sounds like a mix of nerves and expectations led to the awkward meetup, which created some distance. His initial interest seems to have dwindled, possibly due to the communication struggles. Focus on self-reflection; if you’re still interested, consider reaching out again. If the connection isn’t reciprocated, it’s okay to move on for your emotional well-being.

saturnpirate97 • 2mo ago

Have you considered directly expressing how you're feeling to him and asking if he wants to continue getting to know each other?

tornado650 • 2mo ago

Have you considered reaching out to him again to express your feelings and see if he's still interested in chatting?

harperstar • 2mo ago

What do you think might have caused the change in his communication style?

janespecter • 2mo ago

It sounds like there was initial chemistry, but anxiety and awkwardness affected your connection. His recent distance could mean he’s unsure how to proceed, too. Try reaching out once more to gauge his interest; if he responds positively, great! If not, it might be best to focus on moving forward. Communication is key!