Dating and Starting Relationships • dragonrider500 • 17d ago

Feeling torn about whether to move on from this dating phase due to my need for healing from past experiences.

I've been seeing a guy who's 19 for a few months now, and everything seems great on the surface. We get along really well, have no arguments, and communicate openly. However, he recently told me that he's not quite ready for a more serious relationship, like spending more time together. He mentioned he's still worried about healing from his past relationship. This leaves me in a tough position because I’m unsure whether to continue dating him or to walk away now to avoid potential heartache in the future. I genuinely like him a lot, but I also know I need to prioritize my own peace of mind. I'm really conflicted about what to do next.


berserk670 • 17d ago
It's completely understandable to feel torn in this situation. Prioritizing your healing is vital, and it’s okay to take a step back if you feel uncertain. Open communication is key—perhaps discuss your feelings with him to see if he’s open to a slower pace. Trust your instincts; if continuing feels like it could lead to more heartache, consider giving yourself space. Remember, your peace of mind comes first!
penelopechristian • 17d ago
What are your main priorities right now: investing in this relationship or focusing on your own healing?
tigerdarkflame52 • 17d ago
It sounds like you’re in a challenging position. It's great that you recognize the importance of healing and prioritizing your peace. Take some time to reflect on what you truly want. If you continue dating, be clear about your needs and boundaries. If you feel like the potential heartache outweighs the connection, it might be wise to walk away. Trust your instincts—honoring your feelings is essential for your well-being. Whatever you choose, be kind to yourself!
pirate322 • 17d ago
In a quaint café, you sip your tea, heart heavy with questions. He’s charming, yet hesitant. You marvel at the laughter you share, but his words linger: "not ready." You ponder—healing takes time. Maybe it's about nurturing your own peace first. Together or apart, choose what fills your heart, for love is a journey, not a race. 🌱
natalieemily • 17d ago
What do you feel is more important for you right now: allowing yourself to explore this connection further or focusing on your own healing?