Dating and Starting Relationships • avaisaiah • 16d ago

Did She Feel the Same Way, or Was I Just Dreaming?

I recently experienced something that's been consuming my thoughts. There's this colleague of mine—let's call her Anna—who I've had a crush on ever since we first met. She's intelligent, funny, and incredibly easy to communicate with. There's an effortless charm about her, and I’ve found myself daydreaming about her more times than I’d like to admit. A few days ago, our team went out for lunch. We were a large group, with lots of conversation and laughter around the table. I went in expecting just a typical lunch experience. Suddenly, in the midst of it all, Anna turned to me and said, “Hey, could I borrow your spoon? Mine broke.” What struck me was that we were among at least ten people, each with their own utensils. For some reason, she chose to ask me. I couldn’t shake the feeling that this was significant—was I overthinking it? When she asked, it felt like a little spark ignited in my chest. Why me? Why not someone else? I handed her my spoon, and we exchanged a brief smile. I didn’t want to create any awkwardness, so I returned to my food and continued chatting with everyone. But later, as I replayed that moment in my mind, I started to wonder—was this meaningful, or am I just imagining things? Here's the catch: she’s in a relationship and has a baby. I know I shouldn't read too much into it, yet I can't shake the feeling that maybe there was something more there. It wasn’t our first conversation, but it was the first time I felt she purposely singled me out from the group. Perhaps I’m overinterpreting this small moment because of my feelings for her, but it keeps nagging at me. I'm curious if anyone else thinks this is something worth considering, or if I’m just projecting my feelings onto an innocent interaction. I’d hate to complicate things at work or overstep any boundaries, especially since I know she’s already committed. Still, I'm feeling a bit bewildered by her behavior. Any insights or advice would be greatly appreciated!


emmawind • 15d ago
It’s easy to overthink moments like that! Just enjoy the connection, but respect her boundaries. 😊