[18F] and [19M] come from a conservative, strict family background, while one of them is dating an alternative boyfriend.

What should I do in this situation? Hi, I'm [18F], and my boyfriend is [19M]. We've been in a long-distance relationship for two years, and we’re finally meeting in person this summer for the first time—I'm really excited! However, I'm feeling quite anxious. My boyfriend identifies as alternative and is goth. While he usually dresses more conventionally around important people, he still paints his nails, which I think is charming. Recently, though, he's started getting more piercings. I was okay with the changes at first, but there's a complication: I come from a conservative Slavic family, and my mom is particularly critical of visible facial piercings beyond a simple nose stud or a few earrings. My boyfriend is considering getting a septum piercing, which I know for a fact my mom would hate—especially as she already dislikes my brother’s girlfriend who has one. To be fair, her disdain is compounded by her negative views concerning the girlfriend's character. I witness my brother facing my mom's judgment daily, and I’d prefer not to experience the same backlash. I used to find my boyfriend incredibly attractive—he had beautiful hair, a charming smile, glasses, and a simple style, which made me confident that my mom would like him. Now, I'm worried about losing my attraction to him as he continues to adapt his look, even though I adore his personality. I know he’s a great person with a few minor flaws, but I just want him to stop altering his appearance in ways that might make my mom less accepting. I miss the simpler, handsome version of him. I don't want to dictate how he expresses himself, but I’m uncertain how to navigate this situation. Am I in the wrong? How can I balance my boyfriend’s individuality with my mom's expectations? Thank you in advance, and feel free to ask for any more details if needed!