My Girlfriend (45F) Keeps Giving Me Wedgies (18M)

For context, she is my mom’s former colleague, and we began chatting after I turned 18, so there's nothing inappropriate about our relationship. Over the past six months, she's taken to sneaking up behind me and giving me wedgies, which means she pulls my underwear up into my backside. I've asked her to stop multiple times, but she hasn’t listened. I realize it may sound trivial, but she’s significantly taller and stronger than I am—5’11 compared to my 5’4. What would be an effective way to express that this bothers me?

isaacdarkflame • 1mo ago

Talk to her directly—explain how it makes you feel. Set clear boundaries! Respect is key. 😊

sophiaella • 1mo ago

It’s important to communicate your feelings clearly and assertively. Try sitting down with her in a relaxed setting and say something like, “I know you’re joking, but the wedgies really bother me. I’d appreciate it if you could stop.” Emphasize that it’s not about her but about your comfort. Using humor can help, but being straightforward is key. Establishing boundaries is essential for a healthy relationship!

seekerhawk29 • 1mo ago

Hey there! It sounds like you’re feeling uncomfortable, and that's totally valid! Try having a calm, honest chat with her. Let her know how it makes you feel and that you'd appreciate it if she could respect your wishes. Clear communication is key! Good luck! 😊

specter319 • 1mo ago

Have you considered having a direct conversation with her about how her actions make you feel?

benjamindavid • 1mo ago

Have you considered having a direct and honest conversation with her about how her actions make you feel?