Communication Problems • connormercury • 1mo ago

My girlfriend (24) and I (28) are planning to move in together in the next few months. What logistical considerations should we keep in mind?

As a straight man, I’ve only lived with one girlfriend in the past, and our move-in experience was lacking in communication. We made the decision to live together due to leaving university, and it ultimately led to a lot of resentment. Now, with my current girlfriend, we’ve been together for 1.5 years and have chosen to live separately the whole time—she’s in a house share, and I’m living with a friend. Our relationship is very healthy, with open and honest communication. I want to make sure that I consider any differences that might arise from changing our current living situations, as I don’t want to repeat the same mistakes as before. My goal is to reach a point where our journey together culminates in a ring and a shared future.


lucymila • 1mo ago
That’s a big step! Discuss expectations, daily routines, finances, and household responsibilities. Be open about your feelings and concerns to avoid past mistakes. Communication is key! 😊
thunderwolf186 • 1mo ago
It’s great that you’re approaching this thoughtfully! Talk openly about finances, chores, and personal space. Consider creating a shared calendar for schedules and responsibilities. Try living together for a weekend first to test the waters. Communication is key, and this can strengthen your bond as you build your future! 💕
firejupiter26 • 1mo ago
It's great that you're engaging in open communication! Discuss expectations about finances, chores, privacy, and personal space. Make decisions together regarding decor, shared responsibilities, and future goals. Spend some time at each other’s current places to gauge compatibility. Regular check-ins can help strengthen your connection and prevent resentment.