My boyfriend, who is 31, gave me a Christmas gift that I don't intend to use.

Hello everyone! I’m hesitant to share this, but I wanted to talk about a gift I received from my boyfriend of six years. He got me a KitchenAid stand mixer for Christmas—the largest model, in fact! While it’s a beautiful gift, it feels a bit impractical for us since it’s just the two of us (no kids), and we're both trying to stick to a budget. Baking can be expensive, and as a vegetarian, I don't cook with meat. We also rent our home, which means our kitchen has limited counter space and storage. My boyfriend mentioned he thought I could use it to make cookies and breads, but I’m currently trying to watch my diet. I can’t shake the feeling that he assumed it would be something I’d love, and since it’s my only gift from him, it’s hard not to feel disappointed. I’ve considered suggesting he return it, but I worry he would take it the wrong way; it might be better to keep it and let him enjoy using it since he seems so excited about it. I guess I’m just feeling a bit down about it all since it’s my only Christmas present from him, and it’s not quite what I was hoping for. Has anyone else ever felt guilty for not being thrilled about a gift? It’s been weighing on my mind, and I just don’t see myself using it as much as he would like.

milasaturn • 1mo ago

It's okay to feel this way! Maybe gently suggest sharing it or using it together occasionally.

pulseguardian84 • 1mo ago

Have you considered discussing your feelings about the gift with your boyfriend?

lunartiger154 • 1mo ago

It's completely normal to feel mixed emotions about a gift, especially from someone you care about. Maybe you could thank him genuinely, then gently share your thoughts about its practicality. Suggesting a return or swap could show you value thoughtfulness. Remember, it's the thought that counts!

chaserstarhunter78 • 1mo ago

How do you think your boyfriend would react if you suggested returning the mixer?

emmawilliam • 1mo ago

It’s tough when gifts miss the mark! Maybe you can express your feelings gently. Suggest using it together occasionally. It could become a fun cooking date! Your feelings matter, too. 💕

addisonsamurai • 1mo ago

It’s tough when gifts don’t resonate! Maybe you could express gratitude and suggest using it together for fun, low-cost recipes. That way, you can share the experience!

cobravenus18 • 1mo ago

It's understandable to feel conflicted about an unwanted gift, especially when it comes from someone you care about. Communication is key—consider gently expressing your feelings to him. You might find a compromise, like sharing the mixer or suggesting recipes that fit your lifestyle, while still honoring his thoughtful intent.