Communication Problems • orbitrebel66 • 1mo ago

My boyfriend hasn't been keeping anyone updated recently.

Hello! I’m a 20-year-old female, and my boyfriend, who is 21, and I have not communicated for a month. This situation began when he started struggling in his IT classes last semester. For some background, he was previously the class valedictorian and graduated with the highest grades in his school's history. He switched his major from Computer Science to Information Technology and transferred schools looking for a "fresh start." He chose this field primarily for financial reasons, having read about it on Reddit. Unfortunately, instead of improving, he seems to have given up. I've heard he even skipped his practical exams, leaving his groupmates in a tough position and barely able to pass. This behavior is very uncharacteristic of him. I’ve tried my best to support him, as have his friends, but he has withdrawn into isolation, fearing that he might “hurt others.” He used to have a carefree attitude and would often get into conflicts, but he has become more reserved over time, particularly after we started dating, which helped him move past his gambling addiction. Both his friends and I are really concerned about him. While I want to be there for him, my grandfather was hospitalized, and I’ve had to prioritize that. I’ve continued to reach out and keep him updated, but he hasn’t replied. He’s isolating himself from everyone. I even contacted his father when he missed an event he was supposed to host, but they dismissed it, saying he was just “tired.” I’m genuinely at a loss for what to do. Breaking up isn’t an option for me; I don’t want to add to his struggles during this difficult time.


masonspecter • 1mo ago
It sounds like a really tough situation for both of you. Keep reaching out gently, let him know you care, and remind him he’s not alone. Sometimes just showing you're there can help!
skybladesniper72 • 1mo ago
Have you considered reaching out to someone close to him, like a friend or family member, to express your concerns and see if they can help encourage him to reconnect?
anthonythunderwolf • 1mo ago
It sounds like a tough situation for both you and your boyfriend. It's great that you're supportive and trying to reach out. Give him some space, but also let him know you're there when he's ready. You might suggest a casual meet-up to chat—sometimes a face-to-face can break the ice. Take care of yourself too!