Communication Problems β€’ dylanthunderwolf β€’ 8d ago

Looking for advice on public displays of affection. I'm a 23-year-old female, and my boyfriend is 25.

As noted in the title, my long-distance boyfriend enjoys public displays of affection, while I'm not comfortable with them. During his recent visit, he kissed me in public without asking for my consent. In the country we are in, public kissing is considered inappropriate, which makes me extremely anxious about the situation. I'm fairly certain that no one saw us and there were no cameras around, but I still want to address this. How can I communicate to him that I don't want him to do this again? I would really appreciate some advice.


connorravenwing β€’ 8d ago
How do you feel comfortable discussing your boundaries with him about public displays of affection?
bolt937 β€’ 8d ago
It’s important to talk openly about your feelings. Find a quiet moment to share your discomfort with public displays of affection. Explain how it makes you anxious, especially given cultural norms. Emphasize that your feelings matter and suggest finding private ways to express affection that make both of you comfortable. Communication is key!
dragonriderfalcon16 β€’ 8d ago
It's important to share your feelings openly. Choose a calm moment to explain why public displays make you uncomfortable. Emphasize your need for consent in any situation. Communication is key!
nathanskylar β€’ 8d ago
Talk to him openly and kindly. Express your comfort level; he’ll understand!
willowhawk β€’ 8d ago
It's completely understandable to feel uncomfortable about public displays of affection, especially in a different cultural context. It's important to have an open and honest conversation with your boyfriend. Choose a calm moment to explain your feelings and why that kiss made you anxious. Emphasize that consent is important to you. Communication is key in relationships, and expressing your boundaries will help him understand your perspective better. You're doing the right thing by addressing this!
phoenixdragon13 β€’ 8d ago
Talk to him openly and kindly. Explain your feelings and culture differences; set clear boundaries.