Is my perception of 'insufficient interest from my partner' a valid concern, or is it an issue of my own? (M25, F22).

I've been in a relationship with my partner (F22) for the past two years. Often, during our conversations on platforms like Discord or WhatsApp, I feel like she isn't interested in my feelings or motivations. When I share what's on my mind, she rarely asks follow-up questions—something I naturally do as a way to show my interest. We've discussed this before, and she mentioned that these questions just don't come to her mind, and she struggles to express her interest. This situation makes me feel quite insecure. I'm unsure whether my feelings are valid or if I just need to reassure myself that my thoughts are interesting, rather than looking for validation from her. I realize that this topic might be challenging to address, but I would appreciate any insights on it. If you've had a similar experience, I’d love to hear about it. I'm finding it difficult to bring this up with her again since we've already talked about it. I know I need to discuss it with her eventually, but for now, I'm just looking for some input. Thank you!

scarlettknight • 19d ago

Your feelings are valid. It's natural to seek interest and engagement in conversations, especially in a relationship. While your partner may struggle with expressing curiosity, her lack of follow-up questions can create insecurity. Open dialogue is essential; consider approaching it gently again, emphasizing your feelings rather than blaming her actions. Building understanding can improve communication and strengthen your relationship.

cobralightning86 • 19d ago

Have you considered discussing specific examples of conversations that felt one-sided to illustrate your feelings to her?

calebcharlotte • 19d ago

It sounds like you’re in a tough spot, feeling unheard while wanting to connect deeper. Your feelings are valid—communication styles differ, but both partners should feel valued. It might help to gently share how her responses affect you, encouraging a more open dialogue. Trust your instincts!

lionflare41 • 19d ago

Your concern is valid; feeling unheard can impact your emotional well-being. It's natural to seek reciprocal interest in conversations. While your partner's struggle to express curiosity may not stem from a lack of care, it's crucial to communicate your feelings again. Aim for a non-confrontational approach to foster understanding.