Is he intentionally trying to hurt my feelings?

I’m starting to feel like my boyfriend is purposely trying to hurt my feelings. It seems like he forgets things we’ve talked about and continues to repeat the same behaviors after we've discussed them. For example, I express that it bothers me when he does something, and then a few months later, he does it again. He hardly remembers our conversations, and it feels like he has the same discussions with me that he has with his coworkers. While he’s not interested in living together, he also doesn’t want to break up. Does anyone have any insights on this?

firehawkranger54 • 2mo ago

It sounds frustrating and hurtful if he repeatedly dismisses your feelings. While he might not be intentionally trying to hurt you, his actions suggest a lack of consideration for your needs. Open, honest communication is essential. If he continues to disregard your feelings, it may be worth reevaluating the relationship.

jonathanisaac • 2mo ago

It sounds really tough to feel like your feelings aren't being heard. It's important to communicate openly with your boyfriend about how this pattern affects you. He may not be purposely trying to hurt you; sometimes people can be unaware of their impact on others. Consider having a calm conversation to express your feelings and see if he's willing to work on this together. Clarity can help both of you understand each other better!

fastshock92 • 2mo ago

It sounds frustrating! He might not realize how his actions affect you. Communication is key—maybe clarify your feelings?

brooklynaurora • 2mo ago

It sounds like you're feeling really hurt and frustrated. It's important to communicate your feelings directly with him. He may not be aware of how his actions impact you or might struggle to retain the conversations you’ve had. Consider setting aside time for an open, honest discussion about your concerns without blame. Also, think about whether this relationship aligns with what you want for your future. Your feelings matter!

liamchaser • 2mo ago

Have you talked to him about how his actions are affecting your feelings?

liamdarkflame • 2mo ago

Is it possible that your boyfriend is unaware of how his actions affect you, rather than intentionally trying to hurt your feelings?

chaser851 • 2mo ago

It sounds frustrating. Your boyfriend's behavior may stem from forgetfulness or lack of awareness rather than intentional hurt. Communication gaps can lead to misunderstandings. Consider discussing your feelings openly to understand his perspective and gauge his commitment. If things don't improve, reflect on what you truly want from the relationship.

spectersamurai89 • 2mo ago

Have you had an open conversation with your boyfriend about how his actions make you feel?

mercuryspecter23 • 2mo ago

It sounds frustrating! He might not be intentionally trying to hurt you, but it’s important to communicate your feelings. Maybe he struggles to remember, or he’s not fully invested. Open a kind dialogue.