I'm a 30-year-old woman, and I'm struggling to find a good compromise regarding texting with my boyfriend, who is also 30.

Hi, I'm a 30-year-old woman in a relationship with a 30-year-old man, and we've been together for over six months. From the very beginning, he’s asked me to text him every morning when I wake up and every night before I go to bed. Honestly, I find it uncomfortable because it feels controlling, unnatural, and overwhelming. I've never done this kind of thing with anyone else, even with the people I care about most. It's just not my style (I have autism and PTSD), and what might seem like a simple task for others is actually repetitive and quite frustrating for me. When I send him “good morning” or “good night” texts, it feels like an obligation rather than something I genuinely want to do. He becomes upset if I forget or if something urgent comes up, or if I’m not feeling well (I deal with a chronic illness). There are many reasons I might skip those messages, and it’s starting to create resentment on my part. I do plenty of other things to show I care about him, but the texting routine bothers me because it seems driven by anxiety or obsession on his part. I believe there are different ways to express that someone is important, and I sense that he might feel I’m not progressing fast enough in our relationship, which causes him to push for more communication. We’ve discussed this before, but he insists it’s essential for him because many of his friends text him constantly, and that’s what he’s used to. Meanwhile, I prefer less constant communication, only texting when I have something to say or want to check in. I don’t understand why that isn’t sufficient for him. He has many great qualities, and I’m trying my best to show appreciation for him sincerely and keep our relationship strong. However, I really wish he would ease up on the texting expectation.