I'm a 23-year-old female and I'm contemplating what steps I should take regarding my boyfriend, who is 29.

Why do the men I date always turn conflicts into a showdown of "I'm right, you're wrong"? I've noticed a recurring theme in my relationships, and I'm starting to question whether I'm attracting a specific type of person or if the issue lies with me. Initially, everything seems wonderful—he treats me well, makes me feel secure, and we begin dating. But when something bothers me and I voice my concerns, he becomes defensive. Instead of engaging in a meaningful conversation, it escalates into a fight with him insisting he's right. Over time, this pattern intensifies—he withdraws, sometimes blocks me, and then returns a month later, acknowledging his mistakes and wanting to restart. I experienced this same cycle with my ex three years ago (whom I chose not to take back), and now I'm facing a similar situation again. For instance, recently I noticed that this guy followed several adult film stars on social media, and when I asked him to unfollow them, he argued that he had done it before we met, turning it into a conflict. It took several requests before he finally complied, even though most of those accounts had been inactive since 2021. It still bothered me, though. Currently, I'm blocked by him, and while I know he has feelings for me, I can't shake the feeling that he takes me for granted because I've returned after our disagreements. We’ve never gone a full month without communication, which has me pondering whether I should distance myself to make him recognize his behavior—similar to what happened with my previous ex. I genuinely want things to work out with this guy, but I also don’t want to keep going in circles. I've been told by various people that I can be intimidating, and I wonder if that factors into this situation. I’d appreciate any insights or advice—am I attracting the wrong individuals, or should I change how I approach things? Notably, both my exes displayed avoidant traits and had a tendency to shift blame, especially when dealing with confrontation. Nevertheless, this current guy does treat me significantly better.